in my 3rd trimester now and the reality of everything is setting in. I've had practically no symptoms up till now, but it's now getting to the point I can't bend down and hip pain is bothering me so it's kinda feeling real.
I feel like birth falls under two categories, either it's going to be horrible and painful or it's going to be okay, tolerable but manageable and the it's the fear of the unknown that's getting to me. I can't even ride rollercoasters because of the fear of the unknown 🤣
Can someone share experience where they've been scared but it was okay? What did you do to help you through it?
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Hypnobirthing (just the breathing exercises) worked wonders for me for the long labour. Then I had an epidural and it was all fine. I was super scared too as I only heard horror stories about birth, but (if you're in hospital) there are great drugs available if it gets too much! I was told my birth was "traumatic" (episiotomy and apparently quite a lot of blood loss) but I definitely didn't see it that way, I didn't feel it by that point. And when you meet your baby it is the most amazing thing xx

Please. Hypnobirthing. Or if your like me and you can’t be asked just do this one thing for each contraction: imagine your going up the mountain and back down the mountain and breathe, because that is how a contraction is, it’s like starting at the bottom of the mountain, starts small and gradually increases to its peak where the pain is most intense then you go down the mountain and the pain reduces. I was on gas and air only and that’s all I did for every single contraction. I inhaled a few counts and exhaled a few counts can’t recall exactly how many but I was in such a rhythm that I was able to get through my entire labour on just gas and air and I was extremely terrified. You’ve got this I promise it is the most extraordinary and rewarding thing when you finally get baby on your chest! M

The thing that got me through was telling myself on each contraction this will only last a min then I can breathe for a min and it really did help didn't stop the pain but knowing it was going to pass got me through it x

I have had three children and was scared for everyone of them, not like terrified just every birth is different so it’s going into the unknown with them all, but all three have been text book, and I think the reason for this was that I took control of the pain and my body! I made sure I stayed calm, breathing through all the contractions and moving around! I might sound weird but i found giving birth so empowering.