Intimacy time

Is he a Christian too?

I think it’s a problem when you don’t be intimate for petty reasons. But if there are specific reasons it’s totally okay. You don’t need to or want to have sex constantly. And that’s not right of him to make you feel that way. I’m not sure on specific scriptures or anything like that. But I know what he’s doing isn’t great

i’m wondering the same thing. i have always had no sex drive, its even worse now after having my son. when i think about “what if i never had sex again” its almost a relief. is just don’t care for it at all. my husband is the complete opposite and would have sex 5 times a day if id let him. i force myself to do it a few times a month but i feel horrible about it because i know it should be more. then i feel like a terrible wife because i cant give him what he wants all the time. so if anyone has any advice at all id be more than happy to hear it as well

1 Corinthians 7:4-5: For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

His behavior isn’t Christian or biblical. You should be able to say no otherwise it’s rape which the Bible condemns. I believe you need to have a serious conversation with your husband about this and how you can BOTH honor each other in that area. Him respecting your boundaries is honoring you, him caring about how you feel is honoring you. Him being selfish about his sexual desires is unholy and not honoring and something he needs to surrender to The Lord. I’m not sure if you guys were abstinent before marriage but he should be able to give you a day off. Sex everyday can also be unhealthy spiritually speaking.
On the other hand, you also want to make an effort to keep your intimate life alive. Talk to him about your emotional needs. For women, sex starts with how a man emotionally and
Mentally provides. If you struggle with libido, there are natural solutions too. Open communication is the key!

I struggle a lot with depression and anxiety but my husband doesn’t want me going to a therapist or being on medication I even asked him if I could go to a Christian therapist or even talk to somebody within the church even doing this. I feel like if he would find out that he would be upset.I also feel like his sins have become my sins on TV let’s just put that way

You guys need christian counceling because thats not ok.
And some things you HAVE to do for yourself meaning get you that christian councelor or therapist that you are needing. You need to take care of yourself and love yourself and being married doesnt strip you of the ability to care for your mind, soul, body when in need. If its for financial reasons he is saying no… then seek alternative and economical affordable ways…. But just saying no is unacceptable. He needs spiritual accountability and someone who can rightly divide the word of truth correctly because he is interpreting scripture wrong.

this has nothing to do with Christianity, but control. we pursue the teachings of Christ which are recorded imperfectly by human hands. my husband and I are both Christian and neither of us would ever dream of forcing intimacy. marriage creates a physical bond in intimacy that transcends our own individual ownership of our bodies, but that's not the same as what your husband is saying. we've already agreed, as a society, that the bible can't be taken literally in its entirety; there are many clear instructions that we recognise are cruel, excessive, or too of their time, which brings us back to the fact that we've already agreed its records are imperfect attempts by humans to record God. your husband has no right to use scripture against you and in my opinion to use scripture to force someone into such a vulnerable position borders on blasphemy, particularly when it's coupled with his refusal to support you getting help.

his job is to lead and protect you spiritually. i don't see him doing any of that