Pubs/ softplay with children

I grew up not in the pub weekly but maybe parents took me and my sibling every other week and remember it for Xmas Eve/ NYE, but I’m totally against children being in pubs and it feels really odd that it’s legal to have softplay in pubs why are we encouraging parents to take their kids to softplay and drink/ relax supervision/ have children around adults consuming alcohol??

Thoughts??

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Single mums

My baby is 10 weeks old and me and my fiancé are struggling, he’s constantly blaming me for things, saying I don’t give him much love and he feels worthless, I feel emotionally worn down and unlike myself, I’m being referred for postpartum depression/anxiety, he dismiss’ my mental health even though he struggles with both, he has adhd and can get very angry and swearing around the baby, we had a huge argument where I left in the middle of night to go to my mums because he was also slamming doors, I think he’s been trying to meet other women, he says as friends but it just seems to be regularly, he doesn’t take much accountability, I’m scared of losing my baby (shared) and myself.

Any other single mums have any advice on their experiences and how they cope being a single mum and if anyone’s left their partner when their baby is young. We are also due to get married next year. I just don’t want to leave but also don’t want my son growing up in an unhealthy environment.

Yoto or toniebox?

Hi ladies I have a 13 month old and lately I’m feeling guilty that he is having a bit too much screen time! I find myself having to put it on when I need to get stuff done/ get ready for work/ or just have 5 minutes! At first he would still play and it would be just on in the background but now when it’s on he’s just glued to the screen! I have to also put it on whenever I change his nappy because soon as I lie him Down he just rolls over which makes nappy changing rather difficult ! Someone mentioned a toniebox so had a look and I’ve seen some good reviews, but I’ve also seen people mention a yoto box! Just wondered what people’s thoughts were ? Thanks x

Painful sex

10m postpartum (c section). EBF. Period has not returned yet.

Only tried a handful of times but so painful and uncomfortable and can’t have sex. Anyone else? What to do?

Latching when breastfeeding

Hi girls, I am a first time mum to my 2 week old and I’m trying my hardest to exclusively breastfeed but she doesn’t latch properly all the time. I know she can get a good latch as we have achieved it previously however most times she will not latch and it will hurt me. My other issue is that she will not latch with a bottle either when I offer one! Any advice or tips to help with latching would be so appreciated xxx

3/4 month sleep regression ADVISE

Hi! I’m honestly at the point of wanting to pull my hair out with the amount of conflicting advice online, and I just want to hear from real parents who’ve actually been through this.

My baby is 14 weeks old and I think we’re right at the start of the 4-month sleep regression. Everywhere I look says now is the time to start sleep training, stop feeding to sleep, move naps into the cot, take her arms out of the swaddle soon, stop contact naps etc because otherwise I’m “creating bad habits”… but I genuinely don’t know what I’m supposed to do anymore.

The hardest part is that she used to be SUCH a good sleeper. She would sometimes sleep through the night or only wake once, and she was great during the day too. Then one day it just completely switched. Now I’m suddenly up constantly again and she’s screaming her head off trying to get to sleep.

She hates sleeping in the cot because it’s flat, cold and empty to her. She’s been sleeping on the Cocoonababy and absolutely loves it, but now I know I’m going to have to stop using that too because it’s only recommended up to 3 months.

If I try putting her in the cot for naps she just screams, so we’ve ended up doing contact naps most of the time.

So now I’m stuck wondering… do I actually sleep train? Or am I massively overthinking all of this and should I just continue with the contact naps, follow her cues and go with the flow for now?

I would really just love to hear what other people genuinely did with their babies at this stage because I feel so overwhelmed.

Is It Okay If My Husband Give My Niece a Bath?

I am going to Maryland to get my niece from my sister for a Month. But my Husband is going to watch my son and My niece while I’m working during the week. And my mom will have both kids on the weekends. I was thinking is it Okay to let my Husband bathe my Niece if I am unable to? I feel like it’s Okay but I Feel like it’s not only because that’s not his Blood. He give my son a Bath (That’s his Stepfather who is technically his father because he raised him). I apologize in advance if I made it sound weird 🤦🏽‍♀️. I just don’t want to Do the wrong thing.