Single mums

I don’t think it’s worth holding on to someone who isn’t emotionally ready to be a father. A happy mum is much better for a child than two unhappy parents staying together just for the sake of being a “complete” family.

From what you’ve written, it doesn’t sound like a healthy environment for you or your baby right now. Things can improve if someone genuinely wants help and works on themselves, but that usually takes a lot of time, effort and professional support.

If I were you, I’d ask your mum or family for support for a while and focus on yourself and your baby first. You’re already carrying a lot emotionally. There are nurseries and support options that can help too.

I know it’s scary, especially with such a young baby, but growing up with a calm and happy mum is more important than growing up around constant stress and arguments. I’m sure you’d manage much better than you think.

I’m a single mum, I was through pregnancy. My son turns 1 next week. I have found being a single mum easier than actually having another “parents” input. What I say goes, there’s no one butting in opinions that mean nothing. He sees his dad 9-5 on a Sunday, at first I found it so hard to be away from him but quickly learnt that actually that time is the time I deserve when I’m the only daily constant in my sons life.

I went back to work 3/5 days a week when my son was 7 months old. As of September I plan on going back 4/5. I have my wage and universal credit. Let me tell you, the tight budget is worth the lack of ear ache and upset. My home is peaceful, loving and our safe space.

You know what you need to do for both yours and your child’s safety.
Thinking of you, if I can provide any guidance please message me xx

I cant imagine what you're going through but you need to put yourself and the baby first! Especially mental health and it seems you've made the first step by having the referral done! 🥰

Doesn't have to be a break up but maybe a bit of space for a period of time with him still involved and then kind of review how things have been?

When I told my little boys so called father that I was pregnant, he just responded with "that's not what I want". So I done pregnancy, delivery and everything on my own with my now 5month old and I couldn't be more proud of myself. We can accomplish anything we put our minds too and you have a network on here who will try support you as best we can 😊