Health Visitor Query

Hi, I’m a FTM, and have a health visitor coming this morning. Everyone I have spoken to hasn’t experienced them coming before baby arrives so feeling a bit nervous. I’m 32 weeks, what should I expect from her visit?? 🤍

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I had mine at 32 weeks, 3rd baby and I thought it was unusually early too!! They’ll talk you through safe sleep and ask about how you’re planning to feed and dealing with baby’s crying. They’re just checking you’re safe and supported. They ask to see where baby will be sleeping, but it’s optional. In my case it was just my bedroom layout as I haven’t got my next to me out of storage yet! X

My area doesn’t do pre birth home visits (only post) but they do book you an appointment to visit them which I have mine on Friday. Last time with my son it was just a chat if I’m honest, making sure I knew about safe sleep/lullaby trust, talking about feeding, local groups for support and how I was feeling etc. I imagine that it’ll be the same, just based in your home

I saw mine before baby was here in this pregnancy too, mine just went over little bits of information regarding pregnancy, she gave me some information about so baby groups, safe sleeping and stuff. Gave me my baby book. She wasnt here too long. They didnt come before baby was here with my first born so I wasnt sure what to expect either. My plan was to have the house clean also, but she had a cancellation and came early so I didnt have time to clean up after the whirlwind that is my toddler and she wasnt bothered by the mess either which was nice haha

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Anger issues

Right so since I became a mum I realised how much anger I’ve been suppressing my entire life without being aware. I never thought this would happen to me but I started having some changes in my behaviour etc after baby came nearly two years ago. I finally seek when he was 6 months old but now that I’m pregnant again and my hormones are all over the place without mentioning personal problems that I’ve been through that are stressing me, I’ve been having lots of relapses.
I’m still in therapy very frequently I’ve been working hard in getting better and being a better mum for my kids. It sucks so much sometimes I feel like a failure and that they would be better without me. I don’t get good comments from family they’re actually the first ones in the list to judge me.
Has anyone been through something similar ? I see my mums friend and yet I know I don’t know everything that’s going on with their life but sometimes I feel like I’m alone and I get embarrassed.

Best ways to help cool down LO room at night please! Currently 28 degrees and just in a nappy.

Tired keeping the curtains shut during the day and windows open but it doesn’t seem to make any difference…

Wake ups

Anyone else’s almost 9 month old ready to start their day at 5:30am?😭
He’s been doing it the last couple of weeks and I am one tired gal

What would you have done?

So today I needed to make an amazon return. For context I'm in the US and the way they handle amazon returns is you take them to a Staples or UPS and they scan and send them back without having to pack and ship it yourself. Not sure if its the same other places.

I had just the one item. I am also 7 months pregnant and have a just under two year old. I didn't get a cart, none were by the door and I figured it would be quick. I get into the queue and both cashiers are doing returns. No problem I can wait a bit. The person directly in front of me is returning dozens of items. I started counting because I was bored. Lol. I got over 50 separate packages(20 lunchbox ice packs, 30+pairs of leggings her son was stacking on the counter), which did not include the items from the 3 empty boxes (I assume those had already been scanned) in the cart she was using or the unopened box she had yet to pull out from the cart.

After about 10 minutes the cashier asked me if my item was an amazon return and I said yes. She asked the woman in front of me if it was okay for her to take me since I only had the one item. The woman seemed shocked and said "But I was here first". The cashier just said oh okay and kept scanning her items all of which had to individually have a qr code scanned, put in a bag with a sticker, and then their return box needed to be scanned.

The other cashier was clearly new and so it was taking him a while to do the few items the other person had. Eventually he finished and scanned my item and we left after maybe 2 minutes at the register. The woman who was directly in front of me was still in the middle of returning the 20 ice packs.

So my question is if you were her what would you have done? Let me go ahead or keep going with your transaction.

Help!!

Anyone got any tips my 13 month old will not sleep unless in a sleep bag and I can’t even put a light one on her has to be the 1 tog or up. With this heat I am worried she’s literally only been sleeping in just the sleep bag. If I don’t put one on her she just sits up in bed and won’t sleep

MIL

My mother in law is getting upset that baby girl, who is almost 3 months, doesn’t look at her when she calls her name. She proceeded to yanked at the binky which causes baby to shake lightly and cry.
Mind you baby was half asleep as we had a long car ride over a hour.
I told her to try not to do that and she was upset as she just wants the baby to know she’s there.