Anger issues

Right so since I became a mum I realised how much anger I’ve been suppressing my entire life without being aware. I never thought this would happen to me but I started having some changes in my behaviour etc after baby came nearly two years ago. I finally seek when he was 6 months old but now that I’m pregnant again and my hormones are all over the place without mentioning personal problems that I’ve been through that are stressing me, I’ve been having lots of relapses.
I’m still in therapy very frequently I’ve been working hard in getting better and being a better mum for my kids. It sucks so much sometimes I feel like a failure and that they would be better without me. I don’t get good comments from family they’re actually the first ones in the list to judge me.
Has anyone been through something similar ? I see my mums friend and yet I know I don’t know everything that’s going on with their life but sometimes I feel like I’m alone and I get embarrassed.

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Hiya I'm a counsellor ! I'm so proud of you working on yourself. That's a massive step into breaking the cycle you've been in.
It's more likely that your family don't understand because they've been the ones who have contributed to the difficulties you've been going through or endured as a child.

You might feel alone, but you aren't alone x
Your building yourself a better future and making your children's lives a completely different experience to the one you had x

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@ thanks so much for your message. You’re so right, my family has put me through a lot but I understand is my responsibility to work on it now xx

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