Is so selfish to continue to have kids when you’re barely scraping by financially and mentally

My friend, just announced her pregnancy and she just had her third baby 8 months ago?! And she already has a one and two year old. She constantly vents about how things are so tight financially but “makes things work”. These kids end up suffering 😢I’m usually such a supportive friend, but this…. I can’t support. It’s low key making me not want to be friends with her. Coming from someone who is two and done, I recognized my limit and drew a line and overall I’m just tired of hearing her rant about how things are so tight financially and always venting about her marital problems and then continues to add to her stress. Reality has to set in some time!? Should I cut her off?

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Honestly she has all her kids very close in age I think I might have lost count, or got the order wrong 😂🥴

If she is your true friend, dont cut her off and just do the best you can to be there for her.

1 of my SIL on husbands side has 4 kids. She struggled financially with 1. I just dont get it.

Kinda sad how many people voted cut her off if she’s your friend just talk to her and be there for her the best you can

I’d say talk to her if she’s your close friend.

Finance isn’t forever as long as people take opportunities to change. I am not in the same financial situation I was when I got pregnant, nor when I had my first baby, nor when I had my second baby.

As long as the kids are fed, happy and healthy that’s what matters but mum and dad need to work on improving the family’s livelihood if they are at their limit.

Non of my business but just curious why you think the kids are suffering?

Sounds like you should remove yourself from her life because you're not her friend.

Doesn’t sound like you’re being a good friend 🫤 Obviously you’re entitled to your feelings, but a true friend would be supportive.

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