Venting
Omfg we had our 3 kids (18 months, 3, & 6) in 4 and a half years and I swear to fucking god I haven’t finished a train of thought, task, meal in peace since. Like not one single thing. My eldest is probably gifted, probably adhd, and she’s always talking, asking questions, pestering. The younger two are toddlers. I just tried to put together a new piece of furniture and my youngest is messing it all up (I should have done it during her nap, I know. I’m just so sick of not being able to “just do” something). I messed up the table, because my toddler was fucking around with everything. Now she won’t nap and I can hear my eldest about to run in to ask me something annoying like “can I have cake?” Even though she’s sick home from school.
I NEED A HOLIDAY DO FREAKING BAD.
Is this annoying?
My MIL only ever wants to go out with me and my kids if it’s eating.
She’s never really been out with my kids (age 7+) besides 1 time last year where my partner forced her to come for a day out around the city with us, she tried to cancel but he insisted she comes. Over the years I had invited her out for example, after Covid lockdown I was taking them to the park 5 minutes away and she cancelled with the excuse that she wanted to shower…
The issue is, with all respect, she is very lazy. She doesn’t like to go out unless it’s something that benefits her like a party or restaurant or date etc. the only time she ever suggests going out is if it’s to a restaurant to eat. For example, occasionally when it’s school break she will suggest us to do something with the kids, I’m like ofcourse! But then she will say let’s go to this restaurant or that restaurant.
As much as it’s still nice, if it’s school break and she wants to go out with the kids there are much better things they’d prefer to do then sit in a restaurant. We could take them for a walk, to the park, do an activity etc. I also think it’s partly because she never did any of those things with her own children.
So today she has suggested we go to eat out, but it’s a warm sunny day and I much rather get them out to be active