Nobody warned me about this part of having two kids 😭

Not the no sleep. not the chaos. the part where your toddler keeps hurting the baby and you don't know what to say in that exact moment. I have tried everything. I sat with it alone for months. what finally changed it was nothing I had read anywhere 😭 anyone else been through this?

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hey there, Sophie. I’m commenting this, hoping that I do not step on any toes. Every mom has a different way of raising their kids and different ideas on discipline, but I was raised by a very disciplinary mother.( no complaints, she is literally my best friend my plan to raise my kids the same.)
With this being said, I believe that a sterb reprimanding and (if you aren’t comfortable spanking your child) then definitely punishing them in some other way would make a world of difference. The simple truth is that if they will not listen to you, they do not respect you. They should be listening to you, you’re their mother!
I’m not sure why your toddler might be hurting the baby, but I personally don’t think it’s normal. Their desire to hurt should not be first instinct, it should be to love and to care. Have you considered a children’s therapist? Again I really hope this is doesnt offend you, it is not my intention! Completely disregard this if you think it dsnt apply to your situation.

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Does this nappy look to big?

He’s just in the size bracket for the pampers and I haven’t really used them before and bit of poop came out of the top of the back.

Cot bumpers/rolling in cot

Hey all,

My six month old daughter can roll from back to front, but she cannot yet roll front to back. She is currently rolling in her cot and not able to roll back onto her back.

She is in her own room now, and I’m getting worried that I won’t hear her in the middle of the night if she’s on her front.

I was wondering if there is anything out there that can help prevent her rolling in the cot.

I also need recommendations for cot bumpers due to her getting her legs stuck through the panels on the cot when rolling (picture of cot below).

Thank you x

I got the ick, am I terrible?

I’ve been getting the ick from mother in law and really wish I wouldn’t!

I’m 7mos postpartum and it’s still just as strong as when I was freshly postpartum but I’d been shoving it down hoping it’d disappear. It’s to the point where I wash everything after she holds baby and want to bathe her right after but worried I’d offend my husband. She kisses her so much, like keeps her lips on her when she’s holding her, and I’ve never told her not to but it drives me crazy and now she’s given her a nickname that’s after her own name (she’s named after the women in my family so it feels weirdly personal).

Am I just hormonal af???

I’m So Proud

I got my baby hair to grow finally she’s now 7 months you got to maintain girls hair twice a day

Are you happy?

If you’re not, please reach out to someone (professional and personal)

Thanks to seeing my doctor when I was struggling and choosing a fairly low dose of medication I can now click ‘mostly’ on this poll.

Before; it would have been ‘no’.
Not because I am unhappy in my relationship or with my 3 young children but because I wasn’t feeling myself and wasn’t being the best I could be for them (I looked after them all and even played with them but I personally felt like shit)

Now I feel so much better and almost every day is a happy one since I have sought help so I encourage people in the same position as I was to do the same xx

Bedtime Routine

My LO is just over 6 weeks old and we’ve found she’s starting sleeping about 7-8 hour stretches at night. We have always fed on demand and never set any routine but she seems to have settled into a routine of feeding about 6/7pm and then will wake about 2/3am and then go again for another 4 hours.

How can I adjust her bedtime so she goes to sleep about 9/10pm so we can get an undisturbed night sleep.

I know we are so lucky for her to have this routine this early but would like to see if possible to move her routine back.