9 months of potty training still no luck

Hi all, im desperately after advice on potty training. My son has now turned 3. We started potty training 9 months ago at the advice of nursery who were sure he was ready. Hes my first child so I assumed nursery would be experienced enough to give the advice and I felt like he was showing readiness too. Now 9 months later, he still wont tell us when he needs to wee we have to constantly take him or accidents happen. Poos he was always ok with and wud tell us but past 3 weeks he had been fully pooping in his pants and hiding from us. He doesnt seem bothered if hes wet or had poo on him. I feel he has got used to wetting/pooping knowing itl get cleaned up. Im desperate for ideas on how to help him grasp it.

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Not able to offer advice other than we started gently offering and asking before she was 3.
After she turned 3 I went knickers at home and pull ups outside.
I downloaded an app called Potty whizz I am using a timer to remind me to offer roughly every 45 mins as we are starting out.
I let her press the buttons to log her trips it does a little celebration at the end. Nothing fancy just shooting stars but she asks to do it now.
Good luck maybe introducing something new like an app will refocus him on wanting to celebrate wins.
We did stickers as well but to keep it special I don't do that all the time.

I have a potty chart at home and if the potty gets filled, we give a toy. It motivates her to go on her own.

I tried the app yesterday its brilliant, and did hourly alarms and he went 15 times. However im unsure if this will help him at this stage as he is only going when we prompt him which is the issue 9 months on that he wont go unless we take him and then has accidents. Im so stuck, we have sticker charts and rewards etc. I feel he just hasnt learnt the feeling of telling us when he needs to go

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