Need relationship advice please

Whenever I try to talk to some friends about my relationship they just tell me to shut up or that you are happy etc

Basically I don’t get on with my father in law, his partner or his partners daughter. Ever since my daughter was born 2 years ago anything I say they never listened to. I wanted no visitors they didn’t listen, no kissing the baby didn’t listen. Anything I said they didn’t listen. They had my baby call the partner mama without asking me if it was okay when I said something I got told off. I do just want to add I’m not close with them and they only really started making effort with me once I was pregnant because they wanted a baby. Anyway how they’ve treated me has really affected my mental health. Anytime I talk to my partner about it he just says he doesn’t want to say anything to them because he doesn’t want to upset them.

When I was at one of my lowest due to depression etc with how they were he still did nothing because he didn’t see the point in upsetting them. I’ve been on the fence about having another child (although I’ve always wanted 3) due to how they have treated me and I’m scared it will happen again and I won’t have the support. He is worried if he tells his dad partner off that his dad will cut contact with him which is crazy.

All im asking for him is to say you’re wrong, at the end of the day you aren’t the mother, what you’ve done has upset my partner please don’t do it again and he can’t even do that. His dad’s partner is a priority over me.

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Guilt

I feel so guilty because I feel like there’s limited things to do with my newborn, he’s 9 weeks old. Other than tummy time, socialisation et cetera, he’s sat in a bouncer or in bed. Does anyone else feel guilty or have any recommendations? Am I doing anything wrong??

Is this normal? 😔

My baby will be 11 months old soon, she's very happy and smiley with her daddy and I. She's babbling a lot, a very good eye contact, respondes her name normally, she can copy if I make fun noise, points to the animals she knows in the book etc.. Also has met her physical milestones on time (in the cruising phase now), my concern is she gets overwhelmed quite quickly. also doesn't get along with other people, dosent smile, just turns to me and holds me tightly . When I take her to a baby class (once a week) she gets nervous (not crying but chewing on the things and a bit scared face) and very different from herself at home with us. Another example is I took her to soft play a few time recently and I can see other babies in her age play and are more relaxed but she's seems a bit shocked and scared or I can say overexcited maybe? Has anyone else have a baby like this? I can't stop thinking about autism

Post C section period

Hello ladies ! I’m a bit worried… 7weeks post partum today started bleeding two days ago ..not soaking any pad yet just at wiping there’s bleeding but I have lower back pain /period like pain/ scar pain feeling inside and boobs are super sore … im exclusively breastfeeding. Now since I’m breastfeeding no one mention that period can return this early so I’m worried if it’s the beginning of my period or something else happening?

Post c section only bled for a week then fully stopped , bleeding never was heavy almost didn’t required pads. Pls share your thoughts 🙏🏻

Postpartum rage

I don’t know what’s wrong with me,I’m suffering really bad with rage. I cannot control my emotions. I am ripping off heads left right and centre over the littlest things. Mainly to my partner and it’s destroying me and him. I am a week from being 5 months pp. The first two weeks pp were amazing, I was just enjoying my baby bubble but after that I have been the moodiest, very emotional and then most argumentative woman. I can’t take jokes , I can’t be happy and I feel so alone and frustrated. My partner can be great but I feel like he has given up with me as he always gets it in the neck - I don’t blame him either. Because of this I always think he is moody with me and that puts me in a mood which then causes an argument. I’m trying to be better but I am struggling so hard. Every conversation is an argument and it’s mainly my fault. The way he feels has an affect on me yet I’m the one making him feel that way…clearly! I just want to run away as I am so burrowed into my own thoughts I can’t escape them. I feel like my baby doesn’t need me and I am terrible person. I just feel like I am losing it.

Has anyone struggled with this or anything similar, I don’t know what to do anymore

Swaddle

My girl is just over 12 weeks. I know I should stop swaddling her now but she wakes up within 10 mins because of startle reflex. The other night she stayed up all night and the next day was terrible. Does anyone have any tips on how I can get her out of her swaddle but also get her to stay asleep

I feel isolated and defeated

On May 25th a baby in family passed away.. she was only 5 months old

Her parents are lying about the cause of death and I knew because the mother told someone I know
I reported this to the hospital she passed away at… My family thinks I did the wrong thing by reporting this before the baby was buried and that I should’ve waited because “god was going to handle it” or some other bullshit excuses… I reported it on Friday, 4 days after she passed away.. My family is ignoring me and calling me mean names and telling me it’s not my business to do what I did but I don’t see how I’m wrong because this is a baby that lost her life due to unsafe cosleeping. She was suffocated by her dad in both of their sleep from what I’m being told and they told the hospital she was suffocated in her crib by a blanket. My thing is why lie? I wouldn’t lie about this if I was innocent.. I guess I’m ranting because I’m hurt my family isn’t on my side in reporting this… I loved my family so much and now it’s just me, my man, and our child..