Baby went underwater
Tonight I asked my husband if he would rather change the sheets on the bed, or give our 8 week old baby a bath. He chose the bath (which I normally do). I was a little nervous as he had never bathed him alone before (just watched me do it), but trusted they’d be fine. 4 minutes into the bath I hear my baby screaming upstairs. I was immediately worried since he loves his baths. I ran upstairs and my husband is holding him horizontal and smacking his back. He said he slipped in his tub and went underwater. I know it was an accident, but I’m honestly furious. It was a no-soap night, so it was just water, but obvs dirty water. We clean him well during diaper changes, but this boy poops a LOT. And I know when my husband changes him he’s not as thorough as me.
I’m worried about a few things;
1. Water in his lungs (and secondary drowning due to aspiration)
2. Bacterial infection from ingesting dirty bath water
3. Ear infection
Should I take him to the emergency room?
If this has ever happened to you please comment with your experience and if your baby was ok.
No idea why my baby cries
Most of the time I have no idea why my 7 week old baby cries. Her hungry cry is obvious (very loud and persistent), and if it’s not hunger then I always check her nappy. If nappy is clean then I assume she’s tired and will try to put her to sleep. It feels like such a guessing game each time, and I’m just winging it completely. She is breastfed so I basically offer her the boob when I can’t seem to comfort her (to be fair, the boob usually works).
I thought by 7 weeks I should have developed a better understanding of her needs/likes/dislikes, or how she likes to be held/comforted etc. I feel a bit inadequate as a mum (and putting her on the boob all the time feels like a cheat?!) It also means my husband can’t really help.
Does this make sense, and does anyone else feel the same?
How was your libido postpartum? Mine is 0.
I rarely have the desire (or energy) for sex anymore, and my partner does. I could wake him up from his death and he’d be willing to go at it, anytime, any place. I have the urge sometimes but most of the time I’m so exhausted / tapped out / drained, I just don’t have the capacity for sex. We used to be at it like rabbits, and now I barely even want affection from him.
Does anyone relate?
(For context, we have 2 under 2, our relationship is strained (naturally under the pressure of young children so close together), I am exclusively breastfeeding our youngest and am 4 months postpartum.)
