How was your libido postpartum? Mine is 0.

I rarely have the desire (or energy) for sex anymore, and my partner does. I could wake him up from his death and he’d be willing to go at it, anytime, any place. I have the urge sometimes but most of the time I’m so exhausted / tapped out / drained, I just don’t have the capacity for sex. We used to be at it like rabbits, and now I barely even want affection from him.

Does anyone relate?

(For context, we have 2 under 2, our relationship is strained (naturally under the pressure of young children so close together), I am exclusively breastfeeding our youngest and am 4 months postpartum.)

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I have had like one moment where i was like man i wish we could have sex. But i’m only 5 weeks pp and have a 2nd degree tear it’ll be a bit before i could even have sex anyways. But mostly i just don’t feel like i have much of a sex drive right now either i’m super tired and still healing i have so much to focus on while running on E.

Im almost 8 months pp and still no libido. Im pumping and i feel like that's a big part of it. Idk why but I just dont feel like my body is my "sex" mode. It's in "care for baby" mode. Not only physically, but mentally. My baby is basically all i think about. The few times we have had sex, im constantly worried that my baby is gonna wake up crying/need me. So im not IN the moment, I'm focusing on listening to the baby monitor. And he has cried a couple times and it makes me feel awful.

Im also the default parent and have so little free time that I really dont wanna spend it having sex 🤷🏾‍♀️

almost 8 months pp and my libido is rare, i think we’ve done it the most this month than any so for and it was only like twice 🤷🏻‍♀️

6mos PP here and as much as im exhausted 110% of the time, I still always want my partner and just muster up the energy at bed time or early morning.

Our relationship is also very important to me, and falling in to the roommates phase just isn’t an option.

My partner is my best friend and does soooo much all the time to take the load off, and because he’s such a good partner and father - it just makes me want him more. Even if I’m a walking corpse.

This is not only SO normal but it is completely physiologically appropriate. High prolactin, the hormone responsible for producing milk, suppresses estrogen - the hormone that plays a large role in sex drive.
It’s your body’s way of prioritizing your current offspring and keeping you from making more, evolutionarily speaking!
So it’s not only normal, it’s intelligent and appropriate that you don’t have a sex drive - it will come back as you get more nourished and supported overall, build back more reserves, and naturally as your littles grow.

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