Car seat arrangement

If you have a 3.5 year old and an infant, who sits behind the driver?
(Both car seats are rear-facing)

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My daughter is 1 1/2 years old and I knew she was going to have to move behind the drivers side once baby boy made his arrival .

I didn’t even think of this but my youngest has been behind me since she was born.

We have baby girl behind the driver but that’s because we drive on the left hand side in AUS and getting an infant in with cars driving past is a lot easier and safer than wrestling a toddler.

I feel horrible about having to make this decision, the middle is the safest place in the car and I want my baby to be the safest. Why can't there be two middles!?

don’t overthink it. just make sure they strapped in there properly.

My eldest goes behind me and my youngest on the passenger side so I can see him in the mirror.

My infant behind me so that I am better able to reach and hand off snacks to my toddler.

My infant her behind because his car seat is smaller

Baby behind the driver, his seat is smaller and 3.5 year old behind passenger as his seat is installed with a bit extra leg room.

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Baby went underwater

Tonight I asked my husband if he would rather change the sheets on the bed, or give our 8 week old baby a bath. He chose the bath (which I normally do). I was a little nervous as he had never bathed him alone before (just watched me do it), but trusted they’d be fine. 4 minutes into the bath I hear my baby screaming upstairs. I was immediately worried since he loves his baths. I ran upstairs and my husband is holding him horizontal and smacking his back. He said he slipped in his tub and went underwater. I know it was an accident, but I’m honestly furious. It was a no-soap night, so it was just water, but obvs dirty water. We clean him well during diaper changes, but this boy poops a LOT. And I know when my husband changes him he’s not as thorough as me.

I’m worried about a few things;

1. Water in his lungs (and secondary drowning due to aspiration)
2. Bacterial infection from ingesting dirty bath water
3. Ear infection

Should I take him to the emergency room?

If this has ever happened to you please comment with your experience and if your baby was ok.

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I let him watch TV while having he's milk then we turn the tv off and wind down he used to just fall asleep no problem but the last 2 months he is refusing to lay down even when he's very tried I'm having to tell him off multiple times for him to listen after maybe a hour or 2 he will go to sleep but then I feel like the worlds worst parent because I'm having to tell him off its awful. 🥲

How was your libido postpartum? Mine is 0.

I rarely have the desire (or energy) for sex anymore, and my partner does. I could wake him up from his death and he’d be willing to go at it, anytime, any place. I have the urge sometimes but most of the time I’m so exhausted / tapped out / drained, I just don’t have the capacity for sex. We used to be at it like rabbits, and now I barely even want affection from him.

Does anyone relate?

(For context, we have 2 under 2, our relationship is strained (naturally under the pressure of young children so close together), I am exclusively breastfeeding our youngest and am 4 months postpartum.)