Really upset by my boyfriend…

Last night my boyfriend asked if I wanted to have sex, and I told him I really wasn’t in the mood. It was late, I had wake up early, and I was exhausted and just really wanted to sleep. He chose to bitch about this and asked me to sleep on the couch, so I grabbed my charger/pillow and went to the couch. He came out about 30 minutes later and said if I didn’t get back in bed we were breaking up, and I pointed out that I just did what he told me to. He ignored me and I went into the room and fell asleep. He proceeded to wake me up multiple times for sex, and got very upset each time I said no. Then around 2am I woke up to him touching me, and I figured whatever let’s just do it so I can get some sleep. We did, and then he wanted to pillow talk for an hour after. I didn’t get to go to sleep again until closer to 4am, and then at 5:30-7am when I wake up, he began harassing me again for it and I ended up yelling at him because I just wanted to sleep. He said I was lazy and he doesn’t know how much sleep I planned to get when it was time to wake up. Then he was pissed I was tired and sluggish all morning, and told me off for that. Now I’ve been avoiding him all day. I am really pissed about the situation and don’t know how to address it.

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Are you okay?? That’s coercion.

100% coercion girl! Not sure what his problem is but you didn't deserve that, especially because you said no multiple times. Some men are just awful, sorry x

Address is for what it is. You woke up to him touching you and forced you to have sex, that's rape. Even if he's your partner.

What an ahole
You should have him. He is controling, manipulative,and abusive.

if you guys are only boyfriend and girlfriend take your leave, there is no commitment there, and that is a heavy load to carry if you choose to stay with someone in that mindset and behavior because that is inappropriate if you want to continue . Get a healthier relationship because that is a big no-no and will only influence possibly to not think straight either. I’m a firm believer that if you’re married, we want to make sure to encourage intimacy. However, there will be times if the mate is not feeling well which that needs to be respected. 1 Corinthians 7:5: Instructs mates to "do not deprive each other except by mutual consent."
1 Corinthians 13:4, 5: Notes that true love "does not behave indecently" and "does not look for its own interests." the principle of love "precludes the forcing upon one's marriage mate" practices they consider distasteful. Both partners are urged to show "loving consideration" and satisfy each other's emotional and physical needs. Source: JW.ORG https

Oh girl im 100% you deserve better than that, all the things youve said hes done are SOOO wrong. I hope you find your way out of that relationship, he is not worth it

date rape

& this is exactly why we know that those numbers like 1 out of 3 women have been SA are utter BS, cause I promise you that this man will never admit that what he did to you was more than just wrong & he will definitely do it again. Ya know what, my hubs has never been turned down for sex by me, not bc I’m always in the mood, but bc he can read the room & respects & protects me, just like the other night when I was feeling frisky but earlier in the day he was building playground equipment & ended up w/a sudden horrible case of heat rash & was exhausted from both work & pain. I knew the last thing he needed or wanted from me was friction. I didn’t pester him & make him feel bad or unloved, I didn’t even let him know I was in the mood at all, I stayed focused on helping him heal bc that’s what he needed from me, not coerced into sex when his body had more pressing needs. Men like this know exactly what they’re doing, they get off on their SO’s suffering.

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