Having your babies too close together
I’m a 39 year-old stay at home mom. I didn’t have my first baby until 37 and we really wanted him to have a sibling. So we had a second baby when I was 38. I love both my babies so so much. But now I just feel like a shit, mom
My two year-old isn’t speaking yet. And we’re looking into speech therapy. I feel like I have no time to actually play with my children. I’m always just cleaning feeding changing and cleaning some more. I don’t feel like I have the time to sit and teach and play.
people like to say things like the dishes can wait. But the dishes can’t wait. I need to use them to make the next meal. I need my house to be safe and sanitary. My house is trashed. My husband refuses to help. I feel like I’m missing out on so much.
I can’t regret having my second child so close because I love him so much. But I do regret that there’s not more time to teach my two-year-old. That there’s not more time to snuggle my nine month old.
Every single day is just survival mode. I know things will get easier, but I also don’t wanna miss this magical time with my kids.
There are some easier days. But most days are still really hard. And I just cry because I don’t feel like my kids and I are enjoying each other.
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Mum to a 2 year old old, 1 year old and a 9 week old. You are not a shit mum because you care. Before nursery I was the same. My home is my castle and cleaning can’t wait because it affects my MH. They go nursery for 4 hours a day and that’s when I do my cleaning as my little baby is too little to actually do anything at the moment. The older two help me with jobs and while cleaning I say things like what colour is this, how many cloths are there etc, trying to add some education into it. I know it’s not really advice, but you aren’t alone, it’s extremely hard but will be worth it. Have your bad day but pick yourself up, tomorrow is a fresh day x
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