Does age matter?

I’m 33 and husband is 40. I’m 2 months post partum. Husband wants another baby. I do too. I’m not sure if age should be a factor when trying again soon or not… (I’ve had 3 consecutive m/c before this baby)

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After 35, you will be labeled geriatric and high risk. I would try again soon. I had a perfectly healthy baby at 38, and I know friends that have had perfectly healthy babies at 40+. If you both want another baby, you as a woman are very fertile after birth so best time to conceive is now. 😊

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I had my last at 41 & hubby was 50 later that year, hahaha wouldn't recommend but we had 16yrs in between due to undiagnosed medical conditions. It doesn't mean you need to try right away, enjoy your little bubble for now & try when you feel the time is right for you..

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In 2yrs you’ll only be 35-36. That’s still young. I had my 3rd at 34, he’s 6 now and I’m turning 40 this year, hubby is 46 he’s also 6yrs older than me similar to you. Sorry to hear about your previous MC. But age shouldn’t be a factor in falling pregnant when you are ready to in 1/2/3 yrs time. My MIL had hubby at 36 I believe. Or 38. One of them. (Only living child. Her tot died when he was 2 due to DV at the time. She met someone new - my FIL- and had a baby quite soon after, sex ed was poor so no contraception back then, fell pregnant first time w him)

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I would say give yourself at least 6 months to recover from your pregnancy before trying again, the odds of a healthy pregnancy increase if you are healthy as well, having them too close together can be hard on your body. I will say I had 3 losses and it took me 7 years to have my son, but I got pregnant again the first cycle trying postpartum without even having 1 period in between them, and so far the pregnancy has been healthy. 33 is still young enough to take your time if you feel like you want to, but I would maybe try again between 6 months to a year out.

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So its not just about having a healthy baby. It's also your health to take into consideration. I got pregnant at 35 with my 3rd and last baby. I developed preeclampsia, gestational diabetes. I ended up delivering at 37 weeks.

My daughter also ended up stop growing. I live in Colorado so she ended up in the nicu on oxygen. But mainly because of the altitude.

If you are going to try, do it soon. The older you get the more high risk it becomes for you and baby.

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