Advice please!

I would probably say afterwards "and that's what makes us beautiful" or "you don't need to do that age is beauty" just to diminish what she says

Just don’t FaceTime at that time of day? I doubt your 17 months old is even that interested in watching her grandmother get ready every day. Find a different time of day to do it if you have to.

Yeah… no. That’s not really okay. Interactions should be upbeat and positive, regardless of what they’re about. I would have gentle words because it’s not necessary for any child of any age to hear complaining from parents or grandparents, especially about appearance.

my mom always said “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” and “makeup is meant to accentuate your natural beauty”

Maybe you can start of by giving her compliments but if that doesn’t work eventually u will have to say u don’t want ur daughter to be exposed to that in a nice way.

I’d be straight about it, but first get her into gua sha and facial fascia massage.

Then tell her “we’re raising daughter to have positive self talk and a positive self image. Please limit these comments around her, and if you can’t, unfortunately we won’t be able to FaceTime anymore.”

Thanks, all!!

I requested that no one talks about their weight in front of my daughter unless they are actively working out or dieting the right way, complaining about their weight and calling themselves fat is something I don’t want my daughter growing up around and so fed that has been really respected! I feel like it is a conversation that you could easily have if you word it the right way!

My grandmother is this way. I have to remind her all the time that she would be devistated if my son talked to himself or a woman the way she talks about herself.

It breaks my heart that your mil is so casually mean to herself. Ive recorded my gran saying these things before and playing them back to her, most of the time she doesnt even realize the words that are coming out of her mouth. Just let MIL know this isnt you judging her, but you protecting your daughter AND protecting your MIL.

You’re daughter is 17 months old she will have no clue what you’re MIL is on about , when she’s old enough to understand fair enough but right now I feel there is no point in saying anything will just cause issues that can be avoided ..