Breast feed baby

Anyone else’s husband just hand the baby straight back to you because they are fussy or crying and say, he’s hungry, even though you’ve literally just fed them for a good 30 minutes. Honestly I can’t even get a shower, and when I do manage to get 5 minutes for a shower, he brings the baby to the bathroom, and I feels like he does that on purpose, because as soon as I’ve got out and got the towel on he’s giving me the baby. I do everything for the baby. He’s changed one nappy in 5 weeks, and that was because I was at the shop.

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God I feel this 😂 my husband auto assumes she's hungry when she's fussy.

It's most likely because breastfed babies will soothe really quickly when given boob. So it's like a magic wand when baby is fussing which gives them an easy out.

My husband does the same but I just tell him no he's just been fed so you can burp, cuddle, play, rock, etc. if after 20 minutes he's still fussing then I will feed again. So he's pretty good at giving it a go and most of the time baby will settle with him. Xx

There’s obvs a diff between our partners however mine does do this, but I think because I exclusively breastfeed he knows that majority of the time she is fussing because she is hungry so he goes to the source! However if I know she’s fed well I will let him know and he will happily do what he can to help her and let me have a rest!! So if he doesn’t do this when then I’d say u have a problem with him! Good luck xx

My baby’s 6 weeks on Saturday and this is my husband to a T🫢… I told him off after the first few weeks to stop just assuming she’s hungry after 2 minutes of holding her, now he’s a little bit better but I can see he gets visibly stressed when she’s crying on him, he tuts and sighs and just doesn’t manage to calm her down, I’m sure baby can read his energy.

This isn’t much help, but just letting you know I’m in the same boat! I think lots of dads are like this, and it’s infuriating 🥲

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I’m from quite a religious family. In your opinion What age is appropriate to breastfeed in public without it becoming weird for people

Advice please 🫠

Hey guys ,
To give a little context I have an 8 month old and live with my in laws . They are middle eastern while I am British . Every time I give my daughter a bath I wrap her in a hooded towel and then a fluffy blanket around the towel and bring her downstairs to lotion her and change her as I don’t want to in the bathroom floor as it’s tiled and not comfortable in general . Its to a point I just avoid giving her baths when my mother in law is in the house as she has a major issue with me bringing my daughter downstairs to change her and thinks I’m making her sick and she’s too cold and that it should be done in the bathroom . I try rush down before she sees 🙂‍↕️ She always comments and tuts and keeps muttering in her own language hurrying me to go down quickly and then gives out to my husband about it . I’m like so confused I’ve always grown up doing this in my family . I’ve researched and babies don’t get sick from being a little chilly which I don’t think she even is . They get sick from viruses . It just is so frustrating . I’d rather do our wind down routine in the bedroom on the comfy bed and I take my time with her and give her a breastfeed than do it quickly in the bathroom while she’s on a hard surface . Am I making sense or am I being cruel and I should change her upstairs ? This is genuinely a major issue since birth .

I am so so so ANNOYED! We go to the beach, they have worn their swimsuits only once! And I am planning on using them alot more this year when the weather gets better but I have washed them only once and on the correct temperature...

And they've gone MOULDY!!! I am absolutely fuming!!

Advice please!

My MIL likes to FaceTime my 17 month old while she’s getting ready for the day and she’s been making a lot of comments about her own appearance like “maybe I need an eye lift look how saggy” and “I need spackle to cover these wrinkles.” I really don’t want my daughter growing up 1) paying attention to aging with concern and 2) learning to see bodily changes as negative and 3) having bad associations with self esteem and appearance.

Ultimately, my MIL like to complain around my daughter and talk about how hard life is but like get a therapist for that…

I should say something, but what?

Husband with postpartum depression

Any tips on how to offer support to my husband who I suspect has postpartum depression?
He’s been very low for months, snappy and short tempered and is really struggling to bond with our baby (8 months old).
Our baby is obsessed with me and basically rejects his dad if I am present, or cries for me as soon as he sees me even if he was happily playing with dad a minute earlier. The constant rejection is really getting my husband down and he even says he sometimes hates our son.

We need help but I don’t know how to help him… tips please?

He won’t go to the doctor about it.

Anxiety to go out with baby

Hi all,

I have not gone out with my baby by myself. I have with others but I just feel so anxious going by myself. I live in an apartment building with no lift so I also feel anxious about that. I want to be able to go into town by bus or walking with my baby and sit at a cafe etc but I feel I can't do it. I feel like such a bad mum.

I also get worried about my baby catching viruses etc. u know I can't continue like this. Has anyone else experienced this?

I feel if the apartment building had a lift I would feel better instead of having this extra thing to worry about.