Baby being left to cry

I feel like a bad mum.
For context I have a toddler (almost 2) as well as 5 week old.
There's some times where baby is crying and i literally cant go to him straight away because I'm dealing with toddler, or cooking etc
And i feel so bad when he's just there crying.
I feel bad even taking a shower because he often screams while I'm in there even if it's 10 minutes?

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Trust me its ok as long as baby is safe ..
i have a 6 year old and a 4 year old so when i am making breakfast or something else i sometimes have to let the baby cry

That's ok don't worry. I have a 3yr old and a 6 week old. What I always remember is that the baby won't remember being left for 10 minutes to cry... Your toddler will remember. So I try to prioritise my toddler when he wants to play or cuddle or whatever before going to baby. Unless baby is desperate for a feed and then my toddler understands that baby needs boobie lol.

You're doing great. Don't feel bad ❤️ xxx

I am in the exact same boat with a 5 week old and my bot will be 2 this month

Its a nightmare, i struggle to let the baby cry as i get overwhelmed by the sound but toddlers also going through terrible twos so one of them is always crying at some point 😓 i mostly babywear when safe to do so and try get my toddler out in the garden on nice days since he loves it out there but i often feel like im at a breaking point im not sure how single mothers do it, i struggle the 9-5 on my own those women are powerhouses

Yeh we have the same age gap, but im prioritising toddler as the baby wont remember I make sure baby is safe but he is left to cry for 10mins a time most days so I can either have a shower, make food or see to our toddler x

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Am I being unreasonable?

For context I'm SAHM and my partner works from home 7.30-5:15ish without a lunch break. Very busy and on the phone most the day
He's started going to the gym with our neighbour who annoyingly wants to go at 5:30pm every day (No kids)
Every day it turns into an argument of why he can't just go at 6pm. There is no reason to go during the only bit of time you get to spend with your daughter. He thinks I'm being controlling. I reply the gym is more important than spending time with your daughter. It's starting to drive me insane. Am I being unreasonable??

Frustration rant about screen time shaming.

I constantly see moms posting about how their baby is screen free, how they leave their baby to play and get on with stuff and it’s draining to see.

my daughter is 9 months in a few days and does not use screens unless absolutely necessary to keep her distracted whilst I have to do something or we are travelling far and she is bored of all her toys and snacks.

I have a fomo baby who is VERY active. Attention span in toys is 2 seconds, gets bored very easy, is very clingy. I constantly rotate toys, get new toys, leave her to play, give her snacks but sometimes it’s not possible to do things with her after she’s bored of all her toys and snacks. I also give her things that are not toys like plastic cutlery and Containers etc but still it lasts 5 mins.

So I have to give a little bit of screen to just quickly get some stuff done. And I do feel that there’s some type of shaming online and in real life. Even from influencers who constantly say ‘this is my baby playing without screens whilst I do things’. But it’s easier when ur baby isn’t a fomo baby. I feel like parents or moms with very fomo active babies are very misunderstood.

I do want to say my daughter has about 10 mins of screen time in a whole week if that. But also does mean a lot of household work is not done or is done very slowly :/

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