Wanting a divorce?

Hey everyone! I just need some advice , me and my husband been married for 3 years and we have a 19 month old . I’ve been wanting a divorce bc we gotten married way too early bc he was in the military but not anymore. Anyway the reason why I been wanting a divorce is because when I gave birth , he had told me he would stop playing a lot but he didn’t stop for days and nights. It was so bad I remember I’d spend days and weeks alone at night and sleep alone and it honestly made me feel not wanted. He stopped playing as much, only 2 times a week but he is always on his phone and when I try to ask him a question he answers with 3 words or less , it feels like I’m bothering him when I try to talk him at home. But when we are out he is normal and talks. Today he went to go play games bc we got into a fight bc I felt like he didn’t want to talk to me. I just need help or anything helps !!(he doesn’t want a divorce but I keep bringing it up )

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If he doesn’t want a divorce then he needs to listen to his wife, take accountability and be an adult

Have you thought about therapy sometimes it can help my partner was the same but he’s so much better now and we are so much more in love

Play games ? What do you mean by that ?

I would probably try counseling or therapy. Seems like your marriage could use a little TLC of some sort. The fact that he doesn't want a divorce makes me think he might be willing to get help.

If he is willing to go to therapy and both of you understand this will take patience and time to get things right - that’s a good start.
I married quick and had my 17mo in the middle of it - so I empathize a lot. My husband and I are/ have gone through the same thing. Another good start is having intentional time together, an example is my husband and I when our baby is down for the night, we sit on the porch have a drink (non alcoholic) and chat. Sometimes it’s just about the day, or our kid or memories. But we also use that time that one us brings to the table of having a hard conversation. We know and have made the space for talking, and when one person wants to bring something up we check in that the other is open to it (say one isn’t the other suggest just try or even just listen and give it some thought before responding) - much more goes on from there but there’s good starting points and on your end, and I FEEL for you here, is having the one to continue to initiate it

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Am I being unreasonable?

For context I'm SAHM and my partner works from home 7.30-5:15ish without a lunch break. Very busy and on the phone most the day
He's started going to the gym with our neighbour who annoyingly wants to go at 5:30pm every day (No kids)
Every day it turns into an argument of why he can't just go at 6pm. There is no reason to go during the only bit of time you get to spend with your daughter. He thinks I'm being controlling. I reply the gym is more important than spending time with your daughter. It's starting to drive me insane. Am I being unreasonable??

Frustration rant about screen time shaming.

I constantly see moms posting about how their baby is screen free, how they leave their baby to play and get on with stuff and it’s draining to see.

my daughter is 9 months in a few days and does not use screens unless absolutely necessary to keep her distracted whilst I have to do something or we are travelling far and she is bored of all her toys and snacks.

I have a fomo baby who is VERY active. Attention span in toys is 2 seconds, gets bored very easy, is very clingy. I constantly rotate toys, get new toys, leave her to play, give her snacks but sometimes it’s not possible to do things with her after she’s bored of all her toys and snacks. I also give her things that are not toys like plastic cutlery and Containers etc but still it lasts 5 mins.

So I have to give a little bit of screen to just quickly get some stuff done. And I do feel that there’s some type of shaming online and in real life. Even from influencers who constantly say ‘this is my baby playing without screens whilst I do things’. But it’s easier when ur baby isn’t a fomo baby. I feel like parents or moms with very fomo active babies are very misunderstood.

I do want to say my daughter has about 10 mins of screen time in a whole week if that. But also does mean a lot of household work is not done or is done very slowly :/

Also any advice would help

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