Does anyone else have SEN child and feel out of place at groups?

Its not just the children that get targeted for being different I realise its the parents too unfortunately. Neither one being ok obviously. I went to a group (not today but was playing on my mind) the mum there was like oh your child's really big aint he are you sure your in the right group and I went yeah SHE is big for her age I guess and she responded with well if she falls on a little one she might hurt them n I said well yeah if theres a huge age difference maybe but i'm holding her and following her with the play so it will be fine. She said how old is she n I say oh like 20 months n she went thought so this group actually cuts off at 18 months and I said oh right I didn't realise but developmentally shes 11 to 12 months so I guess its still fitting for her... her response well not for the little ones.. how old is your child n she says 15 months n I said aww n shes actually quite tiny n she said well she was premature n I said her too... she said well I guess you'll have to look for another group that can take her size and age, I said I put her date of birth in and asked if it was for her age n they said yes and I explained it would be more developmentally fitting. She asks whats up with her n I said she has a physical condition and only just started walking n she said so even more risk being unstable on her feet. Like what do I do with that.. everyone was staring it was so awkward.. my child smiling oblivious and no-one spoke to me because of it so I guess they all felt the same. Is this normal experience for others?

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Sounds like maybe you had a bad group…they sound like mean girls.

My son has a brain malformation so he is developmentally delayed. Speech delay, can’t walk independently and overall a little behind in majority of areas (he’s 4). We’ve had a few weird experiences, and we usually get stares from people anywhere and everywhere we go, but rarely are people MEAN.

I’m sorry you had this experience. Don’t let this deter you from trying other groups or just outings to different activities with your baby 🫶🏼 it’s hard at times, but you’ve got this.

You are nicer than me because I'd have told her to fuck off. I brought my suspected ASD kid to a tots group before he started nursery and noone said a word. You def do get some horrible people in groups. I'm sorry you had to deal with that

What an absolute Bitch !! Who is she the group police ? I personally would have told her in the most polite way to mind her own business & make her feel uncomfortable! The audacity of some people just baffles me !

We go to all the groups in my area (8-9 per week) and even though they don’t have age cut offs because the kids just go to school at 3, I’ve never ever met somebody that bitchy! Sounds like you just had a horrible experience because of one single person and I’m really sorry you experienced that!
Sometimes I do feel a bit self conscious in a way, because my daughter is 3 and can’t communicate as well as most her age and it’s getting to the point where the differences are really noticeable, but all the parents & grandparents at all the groups are lovely and so supportive! She’s on the pathway to getting assessed for ASD and lots at the groups ask for updates on her getting support, starting school etc and always point out her progress to me when they see it🥹
Please don’t let her ruin your whole perspective of groups because I’m sure she’s a rarity 😬

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