Have you had a “do whatever you want” moment? Share the battles you didn’t pick

At 2am my youngest was inconsolably screaming. After 20 minutes trying to figure out what she wanted she got a bar, but no it doesn’t stop there! She refused to throw the wrapper away and instead insisted on sleeping with it. So there she was snuggling with an empty bar wrapper like it was her most loved possession and I finally got to go back to sleep (I went to bed at 1:30 so I was in no shape to fight again lol)

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I try to make sure all my ‘no’ are reasonable and not just for my own convenience so there’s rarely not a ‘do what you want moment’ in my house 🤣
That way she knows when I do say no to something it’s for good reason! Once you start questioning your own ‘no’s life becomes so much easier 😄
I have a FAFO attitude and sure you can make a big mess but make sure you clean it up lol

My son begged me for sour gummy candy I was eating recently, I told him it’s not gummy worm sour it’s sour sour and he didn’t care, until he licked it. HAHAHA

Same story but with the house keys and this was her nap after lunch. We went for a walk I let her hold the keys, I never got the keys back. It was a struggle trying to get the keys just to open the door. I wanted to nap myself having been up with her the night before. Fight…. I did not . She went to sleep happily snuggling those keys.

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