Does my baby have a bond with me?
Prior to my baby being born I would of never thought these things…
Some background my baby was born small, 5.7lbs currently 7.13lbs at 6weeks.
At 2 weeks I let my baby have a sleepover my in laws house to let me and my partner recharge. He also had a sleep over around 6 weeks.
Gradually as the weeks have gone on since leaving hospital my baby’s behaviour has changed, nappy change is horrific and screams the place down however can have the rare occasion of him being calm letting me change.
However as the weeks have gone on, feeding is a pain, constant sickness, very gassy, he’ll scream when he farts, he farts all the time, screams when put down, screams when trying to console, nothing seems to work.
We went through a couple of formulas with suspected CMPA however the milk made him worse. Doctors said Acid Reflux and have prescribed omeprazole (currently awaiting the prescription to arrive)
My MIL says when she had him he was NEVER like this. My partner even had to FaceTime them to prove it because we left my MIL House the minute we got home baby was inconsolable.
Some days have been beter but 9/10 he is so difficult to settle. He will fall asleep eventually on my chest.
Whenever my MIL have him he lets her change his nappy, is so calm doesn’t scream. She insists he doesn’t have reflux.
Ive not seen what how he is truly like overnight with her but when I see him it makes me think does he think she is his mum or is he playing up, is it reflux.
Im so confused. It’s getting me down.
My mother who is great with children and babies as shes a Teacher struggled to console my baby today he’s not stopped crying. He eventually settled but I think more out of tiring himself out. She said he was very gassy and says some babies are just like this.
Does anyone have any advice or a view on this? I am not doing anything different in the way she looks after him. Apart from she does certain things im not happy with because of SIDS like swaddling him in whatever the weather, laying on pillow/bed layering his clothing. Hes now using a dummy inbetween feeds cause she told me to as hes already on a high 0z of milk.
Does anyone have any advice or a view on this? Im a FTM but I don’t think im a bad mum but my baby barely settles for me will not for my partner at all but will for my MIL and is like a completely different baby at their house. We’ve been there at different times of the day so not sure if reflux has any influence on this and our house is nice so even wondered if it was our house.
Does anyone have any advice or a view on this?
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I’ve found the same. Theres days when my 6 week old has been inconsolable with his crying and a family member or a friend has visited and he settles for them. I asked my health visitor why and she said, it’s normally always the case. In my case, the baby was feeding off my anxiety (health visitor suspects although could also be growth spurts, gas etc etc) and told me to go for a walk with the pram and it’s worked wonders for soothing him and calming me down. Definitely don’t blame yourself! The fact you’ve put this post on shows you’re a great mama 🥰
Have you seen them feed the baby? This is where I’d be looking first and seeing why he’s maybe taking on less air and then therefore more settled.
To help you in the meantime, have you got headphones to help reduce the overstimulation for you and help calm your own nervous system? Sounds really challenging 💕
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