What should I Do?

I’m a 23 year old SAHM. My LO is coming up to 2 and I love being a mum and getting to be with her however me and my partner are struggling on just one wage now. We really wanted no more than a 3 year age gap and i’m desperate to have a second child now, I just know my LO would love to have a sibling too. However we’re currently trying to move house (as it’s only a 2 bed) and we really need a new place now especially if we have another child. My partner has a really good job and a good wage and yet we’re still barely getting by. I keep saying I feel like i’m going to have to get a job and scrap the idea of a 2nd child off (even though that makes me really sad) But my partner thinks by him doing overtime he’ll get more than i’ll get from working and added childcare costs etc (which he is right as he could earn what I would earn in 10hrs in 2) but I want to help and have my own income.
How do you all manage and any advice? I really don’t want to give up this precious time with my little girl & I wish we could have another too. I love being a mum, couldn’t imagine doing anything else at the moment :(
(no judgement please)

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I'm a 22 year old SAHM turning 23 in four months. My husband (25) is an electrician and we have been married for over three years. So we have a 3y son, 2y daughter, and I'm 41 weeks with baby three, another boy. Definitely no regrets it's been hard sometimes but I would not trade having a big family or all of our children for anything! The small age gap between my first two (13 months) was really magical. The children are best friends and excited about the baby. I also really love being a mom! We decided to homeschool and with 3 children 3 and under working wouldn't make sense for me I would have to earn $80-90k to break even on all costs and I just have a HS diploma.

I live in a 2bed as well and we make it with with 2 kids!

You can stay in the two bed with two kids, they’ll still have a room. I know lots of people who live in a two bed with more than one kid.

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