Postpartum depression

Can this start early? I’m 32 weeks/3 days and the reality of my situation is hitting me in my face. I was extremely excited when I got pregnant and now I’m realizing I may not have the expenses especially with state help. I also don’t want to be a struggling single mother who needs to work 15+hour shifts 7 days a week. Like I said the reality is hitting me in the face. It’s making me think my baby would be better with a rich family who won’t have to put him in daycare at 2 months old. Also the reality that I can’t be some hot SAHM is hard. This reality sucks.

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This is so normal to feel this way. The grass isnt always greener on the otherside. Being a mom is tough stuff! Do you have family you can live with or a friend to occasionally help even while you clean? Sometimes the smallest of gestures feel grand especially when parenting alone. Heck, even couples struggle because women usually need a village outside of their spouse. Know that I understand and I know other mamas do too!

Yeah. I’ve been feeling depressed too. For whatever reason, my depression hit me like a freight train at 28 weeks. Now I’m 29 weeks and 5 days feeling like I’m fighting for a peace of mind. I can relate to wanting to have more for your child. I was officially pulled out of work last week because my body couldn’t handle it anymore. I see a lot of Moms still be able to work and provide so the situation made me feel less than for my child. One thing that has been super beneficial is my pregnancy center. I’m not sure where you are located but there are different pregnancy centers around that will provide as much support as possible. My pregnancy centers has helped me with therapy, baby supplies, maturity clothes, baby education classes, life coaching, and a lot more. Maybe you could see if you have one near you. If it’s the same as my center, you can stay in the program and receive the help and services until your baby turns 2 years old.

Just remember, things won’t always be this way. You may not have everything in the world for your child but you could reach out to your community and see what help could be offered. You’re never alone. You just have to find the right people to reach out too. Check Facebook Marketplace. A lot of mothers are giving stuff away that hasn’t even been taken out the box or has been barely used. Hang in there! I wouldn’t tell you anything I was telling myself ❤️ We got this ❤️

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Partner who sleeps through EVERYTHING

I'm planning a C-section. I'm not too worried about recovery as I've had 1 major and 6 minor surgeries before, I feel like I understand the severity of recovery, but my only real worry is looking after a baby while recovering. My partner is SUCH a heavy sleeper (and snorer!), and I am worried he won't wake up to help me the first few days when I'll need it most.
I was planning on putting a small single bed in the nursery so whichever one of us is on "shift" that night can get up with the baby but I know that's going to end up being me every night.
If I put the baby in our bedroom , I'm worried the snoring will wake it up, and my husband will still sleep through all the crying or me asking for help.
I'm a very light sleeper, I have slept with ear plugs in pretty much our entire relationship because of his snoring, sometimes I sleep in the spare room and I have to get up and wake him up because his alarm for work is going off and he's snoring/sleeping through it.

I've always wanted a c section for personal reasons but his sleeping/snoring is the only reason I'm considering a vaginal birth now. But if it ends up being an emergency c section I'll be EVEN more tired.

My mum is unable to stay with us as she's disabled, and his mum can only come and stay with us for about a week because she's his dad's carer and doesn't want to leave him too long (they live abroad). I would rather she comes and stays once my partner goes back to work so I'm not alone straight away.

I've spoken to him about this and he insists he will get up when the baby cries but he doesn't even wake up when the house or fire alarms have gone off so I don't believe this.

I don't really know what I'm looking for as advice, but maybe just if someone has been in a similar situation with a heavy sleeping partner, how did they cope? Or was it a nightmare?

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We will have a fridge and I do also have rapid cool flasks.

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I had my first baby at 19 and feel like in less than 2 weeks I was back to pre baby weight. I breastfed a little bit but I’m chalking that up to being young.

I’m now 25 and just had my son. Not expecting to be pre birth weight any time soon but I’m so hungry all the time! I’m worried it’s going to make me gain a bunch😭

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I’m doing all the things you should, paced feeding, keeping her upright for 30 minutes after the feed but there is no consistency to when the episodes happen or don’t happen.

Has anyone else had a similar experience?

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