Want to give up baby

I don't think I can do this anymore. 7 month old, always grouchy, sleep is shit, don't feel any love for her. Nothing ever seems to make her content. I've been surviving on 3 hours of broken sleep a night since she was born. No support around. Feel like she'll be better off with a family that actually want her.

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Oh darling, I'm so sorry you're struggling. I would consider talking to your GP or health visitor about how you're feeling. Sounds like you might have a bit of post natal depression which is hard to avoid when you're living off so little sleep.
Do you have support around you? People that can step in and give you a break?

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's a terrible place to be and ideally it shouldn't happen to anyone. Please please reach out to your HV or doctor or a Mental Health crisis team in your area. Tell them the exact thing you've written on this post and explain how long you've been feeling like this.

I can promise you that, if you manage to get the right support you will feel better and once you do you will want nothing more than to be with your baby girl. I 100% understand that's not how you feel right now and that's absolutely valid, but if you were well in yourself you might feel completely different so please reach out for help. You can go to a mum and baby unit for a while where they can support you to take care of her and yourself and you will have the chance to come out together on the other side.

Biggest hug 🫂

I've been in a similar position to you. Support from the perinatal mental health team along with medication saved me. Feel free to message me. Sending lots of love 💕

I did do some therapy for a bit, but it wasn't helping. I have no support around. Really regret having her and now feel stuck. Keep hoping she will get easier, happier, and sleep, but no

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What time do you mamas go to bed after putting your baby down?

Everyday I tell myself that I'm going to get into bed early - it hasn't happened since I had my baby.

My baby is 6 months now and he goes down between 7.3 - 8.3. By the time I come out the room usually 9ish.

I don't know where the time is but I'm getting really tired! I don't get into bed till 12/1am and then he's up for a feed.

I feel like I'm doing the cleaning, doing his bottles, getting things prepped so it's not even time for myself unless I have a shower. My husband is a workaholic so I am doing majority of it. There's no help.
I have to ask him to do things then it takes too long anyhow and I get it done

Partner who sleeps through EVERYTHING

I'm planning a C-section. I'm not too worried about recovery as I've had 1 major and 6 minor surgeries before, I feel like I understand the severity of recovery, but my only real worry is looking after a baby while recovering. My partner is SUCH a heavy sleeper (and snorer!), and I am worried he won't wake up to help me the first few days when I'll need it most.
I was planning on putting a small single bed in the nursery so whichever one of us is on "shift" that night can get up with the baby but I know that's going to end up being me every night.
If I put the baby in our bedroom , I'm worried the snoring will wake it up, and my husband will still sleep through all the crying or me asking for help.
I'm a very light sleeper, I have slept with ear plugs in pretty much our entire relationship because of his snoring, sometimes I sleep in the spare room and I have to get up and wake him up because his alarm for work is going off and he's snoring/sleeping through it.

I've always wanted a c section for personal reasons but his sleeping/snoring is the only reason I'm considering a vaginal birth now. But if it ends up being an emergency c section I'll be EVEN more tired.

My mum is unable to stay with us as she's disabled, and his mum can only come and stay with us for about a week because she's his dad's carer and doesn't want to leave him too long (they live abroad). I would rather she comes and stays once my partner goes back to work so I'm not alone straight away.

I've spoken to him about this and he insists he will get up when the baby cries but he doesn't even wake up when the house or fire alarms have gone off so I don't believe this.

I don't really know what I'm looking for as advice, but maybe just if someone has been in a similar situation with a heavy sleeping partner, how did they cope? Or was it a nightmare?

Sleep training

my daughter and I have co slept all have little life lol. She 16 months now I’d love to try n get her to sleep in her crib for at least half the night. I typically nurse her before bed and then she gts. but when I try to lay her down in the crib she immediately wakes up and cries. ( I lay her down after she falls asleep) Her crib is in a room with a bed that I’m able to sleep in just so that while she getting used to it I’m not far away and will help since she still nurses at night.
Idk what to do. The cry it out method doesn’t work for me because she will literally make herself sick crying for me and it seems to cause more stress than anything else for her.

Could it also be that I’m too short to actually get her in the crib I do have be on my tip toes and to lean over a significant amount??

Would rats take nappies out of a bin?

I'm so perplexed. I noticed today that round the side of my house there is a pile of nappies. There my child's nappies as I have 2 kids in nappies, and it was both their sizes and the brand I use. However I ALWAYS bag each nappy individually in a scented bag before I bin it. Our bins are in a communal area with everyone else's bins in the block.

I'm confused why someone would take the nappies out the bin and dump them at my house. I'm putting them in my own bin, and I'm doing everything I can to make sure they don't smell. But the bin area smells generally, that can't really be helped.

My kids dad thinks maybe its been rodents but I don't understand how they've taken so many nappies out the bins, out the bags, and then put them at my wall? When there's so many other houses in the block and so many other areas/crevices that would probably be more appealing for a rodent?

I don't really understand and I'm worried I've somehow upset someone but I always use my own bin and keep to myself.

Making bottles abroad

Hi, I have just had my baby but we are due to go to Tenerife when she will only be 5 months old. I am formula feeding so wondering if anyone knows the best way to make/sterilise bottles abroad.

We will have a fridge and I do also have rapid cool flasks.

Thanks
Stacie

Sleep change

My baby has just turned 3months. Her sleep has changed. She’s so active but asleep.

Her head thrashes side to side.
Legs up and down.
Squirming.
Spitting dummy out but then wants it so cries.
all this whilst still asleep!

She suffers reflux. Is this early 4month sleep regression?