Breastfeeding

I have a beautiful almost 3 week old daughter. During these past weeks I have tried breastfeeding, but it has been such a struggle which has also led us to formula feed and pump for top ups.

Latching is a struggle and when she does, feeding is very painful. She stays in each breast for about 20 minutes but barely gets any milk and is starving afterwards. Milk supply is not a problem, as I pump quite a bit of milk. The whole process is so painful that I am scared every time she wakes up for a feed.

We have an appointment for tongue tie in 10 days. I am hopeful that the procedure will help but I'm not sure if I can keep going like this for 10 more days.

Has anyone been through something similar? Has the tongue tie process actually helped? Is it better to keep going? I'm so close to giving up on breastfeeding and it makes me very sad.

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Partner who sleeps through EVERYTHING

I'm planning a C-section. I'm not too worried about recovery as I've had 1 major and 6 minor surgeries before, I feel like I understand the severity of recovery, but my only real worry is looking after a baby while recovering. My partner is SUCH a heavy sleeper (and snorer!), and I am worried he won't wake up to help me the first few days when I'll need it most.
I was planning on putting a small single bed in the nursery so whichever one of us is on "shift" that night can get up with the baby but I know that's going to end up being me every night.
If I put the baby in our bedroom , I'm worried the snoring will wake it up, and my husband will still sleep through all the crying or me asking for help.
I'm a very light sleeper, I have slept with ear plugs in pretty much our entire relationship because of his snoring, sometimes I sleep in the spare room and I have to get up and wake him up because his alarm for work is going off and he's snoring/sleeping through it.

I've always wanted a c section for personal reasons but his sleeping/snoring is the only reason I'm considering a vaginal birth now. But if it ends up being an emergency c section I'll be EVEN more tired.

My mum is unable to stay with us as she's disabled, and his mum can only come and stay with us for about a week because she's his dad's carer and doesn't want to leave him too long (they live abroad). I would rather she comes and stays once my partner goes back to work so I'm not alone straight away.

I've spoken to him about this and he insists he will get up when the baby cries but he doesn't even wake up when the house or fire alarms have gone off so I don't believe this.

I don't really know what I'm looking for as advice, but maybe just if someone has been in a similar situation with a heavy sleeping partner, how did they cope? Or was it a nightmare?

Making bottles abroad

Hi, I have just had my baby but we are due to go to Tenerife when she will only be 5 months old. I am formula feeding so wondering if anyone knows the best way to make/sterilise bottles abroad.

We will have a fridge and I do also have rapid cool flasks.

Thanks
Stacie

Lose or gain weight?

Did breast feeding help you lose or gain weight? I hear people say that breast feeding helps you lose the baby weight faster but am having a hard time believing that.

I had my first baby at 19 and feel like in less than 2 weeks I was back to pre baby weight. I breastfed a little bit but I’m chalking that up to being young.

I’m now 25 and just had my son. Not expecting to be pre birth weight any time soon but I’m so hungry all the time! I’m worried it’s going to make me gain a bunch😭

Want to give up baby

I don't think I can do this anymore. 7 month old, always grouchy, sleep is shit, don't feel any love for her. Nothing ever seems to make her content. I've been surviving on 3 hours of broken sleep a night since she was born. No support around. Feel like she'll be better off with a family that actually want her.

Diastasis Recti

Anyone have experience with this? How did you recover and how long did it take?

Crawling

Feel so stressed and trying not to!
My baby is 8 months 1 week and literally hates being put on tummy to try and build strength for crawling. She’s stretching far but feel she’s no where near crawling but she’s so frustrated.

Anyone else’s baby not crawling ?