Would you be offended by this or am I overly sensitive?

In conversation with my husband talking about our 2nd being our last baby. I said I think this might be it for me as it has really taken its toll on me physically. My husband then commented that maybe it's because this time around I was more unhealthy before conception than I was with my first. My husband is not the father of my first and wasn't around me back then when I was with a previous partner. I am quite conscious that I am the biggest I have ever been and I am struggling. I think this felt like a kick whilst I am down I am only 6 months postpartum.

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Id be fuming, he is so rude dor saying that. I hope you're ok ❤️

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I'd be upset to be honest. Men truly have no idea what women go through, the toll everything takes on us. Every pregnancy is different in so many ways.

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I would only be offended if HE KNEW that I was struggling bt still decided to say something. bt personally just having an opinion abt it wouldn’t bother. Bt if he said it knowing ur struggling then he actually wanted to hurt ur feelings. And when he says “it’s because this time around you was more unhealthy before conception than your first” how can he make that judgement if he wasn’t around u back then. Just seems like he was trying to hurt ur feelings & doing it while ur only 6 months post is even worst. I’m so sorry. Please don’t listen to him cuz men are dumb asf & honestly their opinions of our bodies or health are irrelevant. Also congratulations on ur bundle of joy. Take as much time on this journey. 🫶🏾

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hi! I’m Lu an actual trained advocate and recovery mentor! It’s a huge passion of mine for various reasons but primarily being an addict in recovery myself! Yep! I’m an ADDICT! You know what else I am? 9.5 mf years sober. You know what ELSE I am? A really fucking good person, and an even better mum.

I just want to extend some some extra tenderness to the parents who are struggling with active addiction. I’m here for any and every one of you, without any shame or judgement. And you absolutely can do this.

Being a recovery mentor myself & 9.5 years sober myself I have done lots of schooling & training surrounding substance use and misuse.
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Our bodies naturally produce cannabinoids so you're putting an enhanced version of something that we already naturally produce. That's like saying "oh don't take vitamin D!!!! You can ONLY get it from the SUN DIRECTLY. Or Like girl what? Some of yall reaaally need to look into things before you finger triggering and slandering other mothers.
There's extensive studies out there showing the POSITIVE effects cannabis has during utero for mom & baby, supporting health and systematic function! but the US is not going to show studies like that, you have to dig.
You can't listen to every word of mouth you hear. Remembers the game telephone? Shit gets distorted along the way.
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Guess what doctors shove in everyone new mother’s hand? Mhm, pain pills, even if you tell them you ARE in fact an addict! Crazy right! They don’t care!
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