Newborn trenches

How are people coping with the newborn trenches? I feel like I’m just trying to survive!

Baby is now 4 weeks old and I have barely left the house with her, I feel too nervous to go out by myself - I’ve only just managed to go a quick walk with her in the pram! Luckily she just slept as she does enjoy her pram and I’d assume the sensation when moving. I’m a first time mama and just find myself completely overwhelmed when I think about taking her out to a coffee shop, restaurant, or to the shops etc! And not only that - being unsure on what to pack!! how many bottles,nappies, change of clothes?? I feel so guilty not taking her out much so we tend to stay in a lot and I think that’s making me worse mentally, I wish I could be better at this. 😢

I wonder if anyone else feels this way?

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Ahh you need to get out! It is daunting the first time but as soon as you've done it you'll go everywhere. I was out and about with my toddler and newborn days after my c section have lunch in a cafe just the kids and me ❤️

If you're only going out for a couple hours to say a coffee shop, I would pack 1 full change of clothes for baby, a spare top for you, 3-4 nappies with wipes, changing mat, nappy bags, and barrier cream. If baby is bottle fed take one feed with you. If breastfed then it's even easier, whip a boobie out haha.

That's pretty much it for a small trip.

My rucksack always has 10 nappies (and other change bits) for baby, 2 full outfit changes, and a muslin. Just increase the amount of bits depending on how long you're going to be out for. Always assume baby will do a poonami whilst your out 😂 better to be prepared! I had to change baby on the floor of the car boot the other day because he covered him, me, and the drivers seat in pop during a boobie feed 😂

You'll be fine. Take the plunge! Xx

Agreed, take the plunge. Set smaller goals like a coffee stop within walking distance.
If something means you need to go home, like they become unsettled, you are only a walk away.
Also, remember that most people (especially parents) are aware that you are going through the hardest part. You will be surprised as to the help you get - opening a door or just asking the shop owners where you can store the buggy and they often jump in to help you.
I went to the pub on the river with my three week old a week ago for a drink and lunch. He managed to spit up on my black top and you know what, I really didn't care as I was out of the house and enjoying the sun.
You can do this.

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