Barely surviving

I’m getting around 3 hours sleep a night my little boy sleeps but I can’t cut out the noises he makes the grunts the congestion cause he was c section baby. I’ve tried everything
Fan white noise, another sucker and spray. I do 6 nights on my one my partner sleeps separate cause he’s working but sometimes I’m doing 2 weeks in a run if he works 7 days. I can’t sleep when the baby sleeps as I have a 2.5 year old to. Not sure how much I’ve actually got left in me

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Are you breastfeeding? You could look into and try bedsharing?

Your partner needs to get out of bed and be a father and a partner, him working doesn’t mean you should be drowning.

I also have a 2.5 year old and a newborn who was born via c-section and is soooo grunty! It’s like sleeping with a piglet. I co-sleep with baby and dad with our toddler. At 530-6 when baby wakes dad takes him so I can have a few hours sleep before he leaves for work. With my first he’d sit up until midnight/1am and hold baby so I could get a head start (this doesn’t work for us now as my toddler doesn’t go to bed until between 9 and 10 but may for you if your toddler has an early bedtime). If baby is super unsettled in the night I call him and he’ll come to help.

You really shouldn’t be shouldering all this alone.. when you go back to work you won’t be exempt from nights! Please speak to your partner x

Agree your husband needs to help! It’s just as important for you to rest - eg you can’t drive your children around on no sleep it’s the equivalent of driving drunk.

It took a few night but I’ve managed to tune out my grunting girl as I’ve learnt difference between crying for a feed/ nappy vs active sleep and manage to turn my brain off for the grunts - hopefully it gets better for you soon!

Otherwise if you can afford it could you get a night nanny once or twice a week to help with burden?

Have you tried keeping little one on their tummy on your chest through the day?
My boy ended up in sbu because he was so grunty and having breathing problems, stomach lying massively helped him (obviously you can’t do it at night or unsupervised but it’ll help through the day to make an overall improvement)

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What’s happening

Everytime my baby has a wake window he refuses to just lay there. Even when I hold him he just cries. I try making the place calm and dim and it still doesn’t work. He just cries everytime he has a wake window. Please any suggestions. He also does these arm movements like as if his nervous system is just blowing up. Does anyone know if the arm movements are normal

Night feeds

This is a question for the mums of non sleepers! If your baby sleeps through the night, keep scrolling 🤣
So, exclusively breastfed 20w boy, wakes up every 2 hours, I feed him and he goes back to sleep peacefully.
He did his first wake up just now, 2hs since he fell asleep, 2:40 since last feed. I shushed him and he went back to sleep. IS THIS LEGAL? Am I being awful?
He is 8kg, almost 90th centile, he is doing great. Can I actually space out night feeds? I feel guilty as hell 😅

How does your baby sleep

I feel ashamed to admit that my 8 week old baby sleeps on my chest at night - and I fall asleep too. I’m propped up in a reclined position, I’m sober and non-smoking, it’s only me and my baby in bed (husband in spare bedroom).

I obviously tried putting my baby on her back, in her crib, in our bed, swaddled, all sorts - but she would always grunt, squirm, kick her legs so much she often woke herself up crying within half an hour. I know it is somewhat normal for babies to have “active sleep” but it just seemed impossible for us to get a decent night without having to “wake, feed, settle” a million times. I dreaded bedtime every day until she started sleeping on my chest - she sleeps so peacefully in long stretches, and I sleep much better too. Bedtime becomes bonding time and I genuinely love the closeness between us!

However, I feel terrible because (a) all the articles saying this poses significant SIDS risks and (b) am I creating bad habits - is it going to be really difficult to transition her into a back-sleeping position (in her own crib) when she’s older? Advice would be much appreciated x

No Sleep training

I’m struggling with sleep training my 12 month old, second time. First time I gave up on day 3, because the gentle check in method ended up feeling like a CIO with baby facing literal fear and stress when placed in the crib or crib room. Now second time trying gradual method. By fading out one association at a time. He’s on one nap now. The entire night would keep nursing and latched every few minutes. And does only contact naps. If anyone did a gradual method, what was that like? If not sleep trained what does that look like?

Parenting

Need advice..

I have our son all day everyday he’s nearly 3 I have got him into routines etc.

He’s not sleeping on a night unless we are next to to him and it can sometimes be hours, but we have a baby on the way. I’m trying to get him into a routine where we aren’t in his bed till he falls asleep which he’s putting up a fuss about however it’s hard because my husband doesn’t listen so any progress I make gets vanished because he takes over and sleeps next to him.

Same with water he’s potty trained but I’m trying to get him out of nappies on a night and removing water while he sleeps. So he doesn’t leak. However my husband keeps refilling the bottle.

My son knows with me he has a small drink before bed while I read a story and then no more but when his dad is there he cries to refill it every 5 mins.

What do I do?! My husband doesn’t listen to me but complains that he won’t stop crying or fussing. Agreed with me trying new things in order to get him to sleep through the night yet disregards it and does the opposite.

And then tells my son sorry mummy says no…

I’m fed up

Baby won’t sleep at night

nearly 5 month old just won’t settle for the night. We put him down around 10/11, he just doesn’t stay asleep for long at all. Maximin is like 30 mins then it’s a cuddle to get back to sleep, put him down then 5 seconds later he’s awake and I have to keep repeating this, eventually I just put him in bed with me where he sleeps a lot better but still stirs a lot. Need some advice I haven’t slept for what feels like forever..