Parenting

Need advice..

I have our son all day everyday he’s nearly 3 I have got him into routines etc.

He’s not sleeping on a night unless we are next to to him and it can sometimes be hours, but we have a baby on the way. I’m trying to get him into a routine where we aren’t in his bed till he falls asleep which he’s putting up a fuss about however it’s hard because my husband doesn’t listen so any progress I make gets vanished because he takes over and sleeps next to him.

Same with water he’s potty trained but I’m trying to get him out of nappies on a night and removing water while he sleeps. So he doesn’t leak. However my husband keeps refilling the bottle.

My son knows with me he has a small drink before bed while I read a story and then no more but when his dad is there he cries to refill it every 5 mins.

What do I do?! My husband doesn’t listen to me but complains that he won’t stop crying or fussing. Agreed with me trying new things in order to get him to sleep through the night yet disregards it and does the opposite.

And then tells my son sorry mummy says no…

I’m fed up

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What’s happening

Everytime my baby has a wake window he refuses to just lay there. Even when I hold him he just cries. I try making the place calm and dim and it still doesn’t work. He just cries everytime he has a wake window. Please any suggestions. He also does these arm movements like as if his nervous system is just blowing up. Does anyone know if the arm movements are normal

Postpartum anxiety

I am literally consumed by postpartum anxiety, which I feel definitely isn’t spoken about enough as I didn’t think I’d be affected this badly. She’s a week old now and I still don’t want visitors and from this anxiety I don’t want visitors ever ! 😂 I want her in a bubble all day every day, I feel sick when I can’t see her if she’s being held whilst I have a nap I wake up feeling sick because she’s not there even though she’s just downstairs being held and that she’s safe but my brain convinces me she’s definitely not okay.
I can’t sleep, I can’t eat, which isn’t great as I’m breastfeeding but I feel so sick all day everyday that somethings wrong with her.
I need a cure for PP anxiety and I need it now ! 🥲

Night feeds

This is a question for the mums of non sleepers! If your baby sleeps through the night, keep scrolling 🤣
So, exclusively breastfed 20w boy, wakes up every 2 hours, I feed him and he goes back to sleep peacefully.
He did his first wake up just now, 2hs since he fell asleep, 2:40 since last feed. I shushed him and he went back to sleep. IS THIS LEGAL? Am I being awful?
He is 8kg, almost 90th centile, he is doing great. Can I actually space out night feeds? I feel guilty as hell 😅

Feeding less

My baby is 8 weeks 4 days and had her vaccine 3 days ago.

Both yesterday and today she seems to be feeding way less. Like every two hours during the day rather than sometimes every 40 minutes.

If I put her near the boob she will just cry if she doesn't want it which she has never done before

Is this normal

How does your baby sleep

I feel ashamed to admit that my 8 week old baby sleeps on my chest at night - and I fall asleep too. I’m propped up in a reclined position, I’m sober and non-smoking, it’s only me and my baby in bed (husband in spare bedroom).

I obviously tried putting my baby on her back, in her crib, in our bed, swaddled, all sorts - but she would always grunt, squirm, kick her legs so much she often woke herself up crying within half an hour. I know it is somewhat normal for babies to have “active sleep” but it just seemed impossible for us to get a decent night without having to “wake, feed, settle” a million times. I dreaded bedtime every day until she started sleeping on my chest - she sleeps so peacefully in long stretches, and I sleep much better too. Bedtime becomes bonding time and I genuinely love the closeness between us!

However, I feel terrible because (a) all the articles saying this poses significant SIDS risks and (b) am I creating bad habits - is it going to be really difficult to transition her into a back-sleeping position (in her own crib) when she’s older? Advice would be much appreciated x

Talking

Is anyone’s baby talking yet?
My son doesn’t seem to be interested in talking apart from Mumma and dada..
I know I shouldn’t compare children but by the time my daughter was this age she was talking and saying her colours etc.. but my son just doesn’t seem to be interested