Is it really that bad with a toddler and newborn?

Some of the posts on here are worrying me, I have so much anxiety anyway.

I have a toddler and a newborn that will be arriving this week. I’m terrified I won’t cope and it’ll send me into psychosis and depression again 😢

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Don’t let the negatives get to you.
I have a 3 year old (just turned 3) and 2x 2 week olds and surviving!

My toddler doesn’t care he gets their nappies and dummies to help out and then he just goes of and plays

It is hard but I would say less hard than pregnancy and toddler, it’s just the tiredness really x

I’m finding it difficult but only cause my girl is 2.5 and has the attitude of a 12 year old diva and she’s so bossy and sassy that she’s just hard work at this stage. I kinda feel mum guilt cause my second who’s 5 weeks he gets no attention other than feeding changing and what he needs cause she takes everything from me at the moment.

However she loves him so so much and it’s so lovely to see her wanting to help with him and just be with him. Some days are great depending what mood my 2 year old wakes up in 😂 but it’s not forever and I’m coping alone my partner is back at work she does however go nursery 3 times a week which I have stuck to just to give me some time with my second and catch up on sleep and things x

I have a 3 year old and a newborn. The first two weeks were a bit harder, it’s a lot to adjust to, especially for a 3 year old.
We got the toddler involved in everything baby related, she helps with everything. They need to feel seen and heard. Also, my husband and I take turns with having baby time and toddler time alone. We haven’t changed routine at all.

It will take a few days, maybe weeks to adjust, but seeing their bond develop, and realising how big your first born actually is..it’s all worth it.

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