Partner struggles (please don’t judge)

I’m a first time mum and my son is nearly 10 months old. I understand that having a baby will challenge your relationship… but at what point is enough?? I feel like since having my son. I’m no longer interested in our relationship. Having our son has almost made me feel like I can see things more clearly and my partners ‘true colours’ are more obvious. Whereas before having my son any behaviours I didn’t like, would just be brushed under the carpet, but having my son makes me feel less tolerant to this. I don’t want to paint my partner out to be bad a person, but he’s quite verbally aggressive and I’m tired of it.(I’m also not perfect myself) but sometimes I think would it be easier on me emotionally to do this on my own?? I’ve had thoughts about leaving but I’m worried about the financial side and having no support around me. We both own our home together and my partner has mentioned in the past that if I wanted to leave then it would be me moving out and him staying with our son. (He’s a solicitor) which also worries me if we I tried to end the relationship. I’m just feeling stuck and unhappy. I’m sorry this is long

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I’m sorry but why should it be you leaving while he stay with your son? You mentioned he’s verbally aggressive,he shouldn’t be left to raise a child alone.

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I don’t think it matters who made the decision to split, if the relationship is no longer working,then it’s not working. O think and from what I know, the person who stays with the baby is the most stable one, and it’s also usually the mom. Don’t let him scare you. You can speak to a lawyer also to know what your options are .

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What should i do?

A long story short,
Me and my bf have a 2 year old. Throughout my pregnancy my bf wasn’t super supportive, once i had our son he was so good for a couple weeks, and since then he has basically left most of it to me. Night feeds, cleaning, food shop, I pay the bills because he is in debt, he does his hobby on either a Saturday or Sunday and an evening or two during the week.. which involves alcohol and drugs.
I do the cooking, washing up, wash his clothes, obviously look after our son.
He will sometimes do the bedtime routine and cook maybe 2/4 times a month.

Anyway, my family think i’d be best without him but somehow i cannot seem to let go. I’m scared I’ll regret it.

Would you stay or leave? And any advice would be appreciated, thank you

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Hi Can i see your 7 months old baby’s plate please ???

Mama is out of ideas

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Meal times!

How are we coping with meal times?! 😩 Especially those that do it single handedly (my partner is a chef so spends evenings at work) I'm really struggling to juggle trying to keep my 12.5 month old out of trouble/happy whilst I'm cooking dinner and it just all ends up in shambles, i don't like cooking at the best of times but even less when I've either got my little boy tugging at my legs or if i put him in his high chair with toys, he just ends up screaming after 5 mins🤦‍♀️ i don't even know what I'm looking for to be honest just need to know I'm not the only one thats struggling with this part of parenting 😮‍💨 pic of how dinner went tonight for fun 😭🤣

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Weaning! 9 months old

Helpppp! I’m trying to do some BLW meals and I’m so stuck!

Does anyone have any easy simple ideas for a very anxious mum!

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wtf man..

I really need advice. I don’t know what to do at all.
My husband is a bread maker in the house because I’ll stay home and homeschool the kids and take care of the house. Well he doesn’t like the job that he’s at and he wants to leave. I’m behind him and anything that he does but he is now turned in his two weeks and taken the last $60 out of our bank account and it’s really bothering me because we were already behind on what we’re supposed to have to be able to pay our car insurance tomorrow… So now I have to hope that he just has a big enough check that we can pay our insurance and be able to pay the rest of our bills and get groceries because even though he only makes $750 a week and our rent is $1300 a month we make too much to get food stamps…

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If you’re at a close friend / relative’s house do you ask if you can eat their foods or snacks or do you just help yourself ?

I’m trying to be better at eating nutritious
meals so I meal prep my meals and snacks. Went to get my snack to see it’s all gone 😒 I’m always the type of person to ask if it’s okay to eat something first if it does not belong to me (even my husband). Like I know Greek yogurt and nuts are his go to snack at night. I’m not gonna eat them all/ the last of it because I know he won’t have anymore - especially without asking!! I’ll add that he probably wouldn’t make a big fuss about this if I did but I still would not.

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