Should I leave him or should I work things out ?
So I just wanted to come on here and sort of vent and get a non biased opinion. Me and my partner live with my parents to save some extra money to hopefully move out by the end of the year. My partner has been out of a job for 3 months, I gave him the benefit of the doubt the first 2 months but now i’m noticing he’s not really putting in the effort to look for a job. I work full time and on top of that, getting child care for our daughter, for him to be home ALL DAY play video games, smoke, shit, eat, sleep and repeat. It’s getting harder are the days go by, i have been coming home at 9 to find the room the same way it was when i left or find clothes piled up in a corner just to get it out of the way. I’m not asking him to cook me dinner or make me lunch. I just want help around the house and it seems like even the bare minimum is asking for alot. I’m debating alot if it’s best we stay together or separate. the reason that’s making me want to leave him is the fact he called his parents to tell him my parents are abusing him!! (by making him to chores around the house BTW) He’s not working, yet thinks doing house work/yard work is abusing him? making him a “slave” to my parents .. like bro ur not working, u don’t look after our daughter, u don’t actively look for work.. WHAT EXCUSE DO YOU HAVE?! Mind you, homeboy BEGGED and CRIED to my parents to let him move in with us because his parents were doing the same thing and “abusing” him by making him clean after “everyone” and they would actually physically abuse him. Now.. he’s claiming he’s forgiving his parents and now hates my parents for “abusing him” by making him do house work. I’m just so mad yall .. this has been happening for 3 months and my parents gave him until the end of june to find a job or he’s out.. i tried fighting and standing up for him but Im ready to give up.. should i or not? /:
What should i do?
A long story short,
Me and my bf have a 2 year old. Throughout my pregnancy my bf wasn’t super supportive, once i had our son he was so good for a couple weeks, and since then he has basically left most of it to me. Night feeds, cleaning, food shop, I pay the bills because he is in debt, he does his hobby on either a Saturday or Sunday and an evening or two during the week.. which involves alcohol and drugs.
I do the cooking, washing up, wash his clothes, obviously look after our son.
He will sometimes do the bedtime routine and cook maybe 2/4 times a month.
Anyway, my family think i’d be best without him but somehow i cannot seem to let go. I’m scared I’ll regret it.
Would you stay or leave? And any advice would be appreciated, thank you
