Should I leave him or should I work things out ?

So I just wanted to come on here and sort of vent and get a non biased opinion. Me and my partner live with my parents to save some extra money to hopefully move out by the end of the year. My partner has been out of a job for 3 months, I gave him the benefit of the doubt the first 2 months but now i’m noticing he’s not really putting in the effort to look for a job. I work full time and on top of that, getting child care for our daughter, for him to be home ALL DAY play video games, smoke, shit, eat, sleep and repeat. It’s getting harder are the days go by, i have been coming home at 9 to find the room the same way it was when i left or find clothes piled up in a corner just to get it out of the way. I’m not asking him to cook me dinner or make me lunch. I just want help around the house and it seems like even the bare minimum is asking for alot. I’m debating alot if it’s best we stay together or separate. the reason that’s making me want to leave him is the fact he called his parents to tell him my parents are abusing him!! (by making him to chores around the house BTW) He’s not working, yet thinks doing house work/yard work is abusing him? making him a “slave” to my parents .. like bro ur not working, u don’t look after our daughter, u don’t actively look for work.. WHAT EXCUSE DO YOU HAVE?! Mind you, homeboy BEGGED and CRIED to my parents to let him move in with us because his parents were doing the same thing and “abusing” him by making him clean after “everyone” and they would actually physically abuse him. Now.. he’s claiming he’s forgiving his parents and now hates my parents for “abusing him” by making him do house work. I’m just so mad yall .. this has been happening for 3 months and my parents gave him until the end of june to find a job or he’s out.. i tried fighting and standing up for him but Im ready to give up.. should i or not? /:

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I work 8+ hours in the sun ALL DAY.. for him to stay home, smoke, eat and nap all day 🥲is it even fair?!

please put him in the bin, genuinely...

Not fair at all I start working in week and a half boo right my fiance is the way exact way so u know what I did I kicked him out my place only difference is I have my own place I realized that as soon as I got pregnant he helped even less and now he’s almost like punishing me it feels like almost makes me think he don’t even want my pride and joy . I’ve been thru a lot with my first three kids not doing it again I just keep reminding myself everything I went thru and how I don’t want to be there again feeling that way and going threw the same shit I went thru years ago . My first 3 kids father is dead they all have the same daddy . He was killed last year but this one here idk separation u have to teach these men a lesson if it’s meant to b he would come back and do better and realize he is the man tf shit turns me off bout these men nowadays it’s almost hard to have a good one cuse there almost all the same like eww 💩 u can do bad all by yaself free loading is a big no no mammas

He sounds lazy as fuck and a horrible father. Let your parents kick him out

So what exactly is he useful for? It will never get better but get worse when you both finally get a place together. It’s very unfair that he gets to do whatever he wants, can’t watch his kid and you have to pay for childcare when he’s just home doing nothing.

He sounds like a man child and no woman wants a fully grown adult to look after. It's just a burden for you and resentment is only going to grow until you end up hating him.He's gaslighting by saying he's being abused, I would be embarrassed to call myself a man acting like this.. honestly there's nothing LESS attractive 🤢... I would ask him to move out until he can get his shit together and either get a job or help around the house , and follow through with it. You're not losing anything by giving consequences ,because he's not giving anything apart from hassle, and extra work anyway.

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