Do you consider SAHM a job?

Got into an argument with my partner because I’ve been having a rough week. I was venting about my hard day and being frustrated that I never get a break. My partner has been working out of town for the past two months and it’s been extremely hard being alone for so long. He comes back on the weekends but the weekends go by so fast. I was ok at first but the loneliness is getting to me. I was just venting my frustration when he told me I should be blessed about staying home which I very much am but anyway. He said I need to change my mentality and be more positive. Just made me feel like shit like I’m not allowed to have bad days and I’m not allowed to vent just because I’m blessed to have this wonderful life. Makes me feel bad for struggling like I’m weak and incapable of staying home. Anyway he was saying being a stay at home mom is not a job but a lifestyle and I should be grateful and not complain. But I think a stay at home mom is a job just in a different way. Do you consider a stay at home mom a job?

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It's 100% a job. If you worked outside the home you'd have to hire someone to watch your child, right? Then it's a job to be home with them!

Being a stay at home mom is a 24 hour a day job. He gets to leave work and leave it behind but you have around the clock responsibilities. A man won’t ever truly understand, but he can get a glimpse if you go away for 24 hours and he has to be the caregiver. Leaving my son with my husband over night to go and help a friend with her sick mom was the best thing I ever did to help my husband understand partially how rough it is. Explaining with words will not work, so don’t take his words to heart. Know that other moms get it and make time for the things that restore you/ bring you joy. You have to take your time because it won’t just be given to you. And you can’t expect him to try to fix any of the things that feel like is going wrong. If you’re feeling lonely, make a date with a friend to bond and have sisterly connection

Being a mother period is a full time job, let alone sahm. You can be blessed & grateful & totally exhausted & lonely trust me I’ve been there. There is no clocking out for us, “breaks” are time to clean up messes not breathe, any other occupation at some point you get to clock out - if it is a “lifestyle” & not a job that should just lend more credence that this is HARD work. It’s totally unfair to you to be made to feel like it’s not.

Being a SAHM is equivalent to working 2 full time jobs.

It is a job that’s for sure . Definitely feel free to message me I’m a SAHM and my husband also works out of town and only comes home for weekends atm

Yes, I do. My husband also say/consider it a job. He’ll tell everyone and some men would also agree that a stay at home mom is a job.

Imagine working full time without rest or breaks & then ontop of that, you DON’T get paid for it.. then ontop of THAT you have someone telling you what you’re doing isn’t work.

I remember working 75 hour weeks as a single mum with 2 jobs and my boss still behaved like I wasn’t doing enough. It made me feel like SHIT and I WAS getting paid for it.

I always say, if I had to go out & work I’d have to hire a nanny. Does that mean if me being a SAHM isn’t a job, then the nanny also doesn’t have a job? Does she just come for fun?

100% a full time job. We just don’t have the luxury of breaks or pay.

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