I'm really struggling 🥹

I feel so ungrateful. I've wanted my baby for so long. He's my quadruple rainbow 🌈. I have an 11 year old but I don't remember things ever being like this with him.
My 7 month old has recently started crying and screaming over everything. Hungry Screams. Tired Screams. In the pram Screams. He used to sleep in good stretches and now he wakes up every few hours screaming. There's been days I've tried calpol when it's been really bad because I can only assume it's pain. But it doesn't make a difference. I'm really struggling with the lack of sleep and the constant headaches from his crying. My Husband is amazing but we're both struggling at this point. I'm just not enjoying being his Mum anymore 😭😭

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Hi mama, sounds like you little one is hitting their first big sleep regression while finding their voice, mine went through the same stage at that age and it lasted a few months and I hit a dark point as I was already struggling quite bad with postpartum depression, best advice the health visitor gave me that sounds insane but saved my sanity, put ear plugs/headphones in, you can still hear everything going on around you but it takes the edge off the screaming to help you catch your breath while tending to the baby, sleep regressions tend to fix with time but in the thick of it is ROUGH but you’re doing great, keep talking to your husband about how your feeling though, sleep deprivation is torture (literally) and can make us think and feel things we would never normally think or feel
Your doing great🫶🏻

Hey, not sure if I can help, but I want to send you a tight hug. Motherhood is not always easy and we’ll hit some tough path and sounds you are there now xxx

This sounds really tough and we’ve gone through similar situations with our 7 month girl. If you have ever want a chat, please feel free to message me. It’s good to have other mum friends, certainly makes you feel better talking to someone who knows how you feel. Sending a big hug xx

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Nursery funding question

I have a 2yo currently at nursery and we’ve got the 30hours working parents hours and in August my youngest will start who will also get the 30 hours. I also use the tax free childcare.
However, my partner is starting university full time and has been told student finance can help with up to 85% of nursery fees, how does this work if I’m working and have the childcare etc in my name? Or are we best to just keep it how it is? Has anyone been in this situation before? It’s confusing enough without confusing it more 😵‍💫😅

Joking around

It seems like my husband is making jabs at me disguised as jokes. And he will
do it in front of other people.
When I confront him and tell him that the jokes he's making doesn't come across as funny to me he basically just thinks I'm being sensitive. It almost seems like resentment coming out in "joke" form, but no one laughs and it just tears me down and leaves me feeling uncomfortable. Idk if it's just me... maybe I am sensitive and just can't take a joke. He literally said that he isn't going to joke around with me anymore. Which I don't understand because me and my husband can joke around and have laughing fits but there are just some things that I just don't find very funny and I actually find insulting.

His response to me bringing it up makes me question myself a lot and if I shouldn't get so offended and if I should be more accepting of these jokes even though they might feel like jabs maybe I'm just overly sensitive.

I'm not sure how I should handle this.

Childcare funded hours

Can someone please help break this down to me 🫠 qualified for the funded hours spread out so roughly 22 per week. Also can have tax-free childcare. But how does it work? He starts in September and I don’t really find the nursery helpful at all 😬 if anyone could just give an example of what it looks like for them would be great!! (My brain doesn’t seem to want to work haha)

Make me feel less anxious 😅

So I’m 7 Months PP, my husband & I just bought our first home & paid off all of my other debt. We are in a very good place in our relationship & went away a few weeks ago… & well on thing lead to another and he didn’t pull out (I’m on the patch for context but we don’t use protection). We’ve had a cold for the last week & I’ve been feeling super sick to my stomach but my husband says he is to.

I did take a test (period is due next week) & it was negative but I know it would be too early (my husband was bugging me 😂). He makes alot of “jokes” but not jokes about me being a stay at home mom, it’s something we both want. However ‘stay at home’ would mean work 2 nights a week & every other Saturday most likely (we both feel i should never completely not work. We have been chatting recently about if I am pregnant & what that would look like (not working until both kids are in school)

WELL. We are both very anxious about the possibility of me being pregnant, I feel like it’s unlikely because we’ve struggled with fertility issues in the past but like it only takes one time 😅.

For context my husband & I are open to the idea of another baby, we both would prefer a 3-4 year age gap & also would love to have another when I would actually have enough hours for maternity leave again. My work is very accommodating so I’m not concerned about that. I guess just any advice or well wishes would help 🤍 thank you

Am I wrong?

My 13 year old niece is awake. I asked her around 4:30am why she’s awake & around 5:30am she replied “Playing with friends.” I ask “Playing what with friends?! 👀 I love you, be good.” Am I wrong to be concerned? She lives with her dad’s girlfriend currently, but used to live with her paternal aunt, who was lazy and careless and irresponsible. Her dad is often out of state for work and her mom has always put drugs, alcohol and questionable men before her own kids. Her main guardians have been my MIL, her paternal aunt and now her dad’s girlfriend of maybe 8 months. I know it’s summertime, but am I wrong for thinking she should be responsible and asleep at this hour?

Sad and miserable

Well im a single mom. I was just told by his pediatrician that he needs so probiotics in his diet. His medicaid will not pay for it. I dont get paid until 26th and im sad cause I have Noone to help me get some baby probiotics drops. I dont know what to do. I know part of this is PPD but I cant help feeling like im failing I cant get a job cause of my disability. Im about to give up on everything... advice please and thank you