Am I wrong?

My 13 year old niece is awake. I asked her around 4:30am why she’s awake & around 5:30am she replied “Playing with friends.” I ask “Playing what with friends?! 👀 I love you, be good.” Am I wrong to be concerned? She lives with her dad’s girlfriend currently, but used to live with her paternal aunt, who was lazy and careless and irresponsible. Her dad is often out of state for work and her mom has always put drugs, alcohol and questionable men before her own kids. Her main guardians have been my MIL, her paternal aunt and now her dad’s girlfriend of maybe 8 months. I know it’s summertime, but am I wrong for thinking she should be responsible and asleep at this hour?

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My husband lets the baby cry her lungs out till she falls asleep she’s only 1 month old. Maybe im tripping idk, but it makes me upset when he does this because how hard is it to soothe her? It’s not hard and just seeing her laying there crying her lungs out, turning red and tears coming down her face breaks my heart. Obviously I would step in, but I have a feeling he does this so I would stop asking him to watch the baby or take care of here while I get things done. I’ve talked to him about it and he just brushes it off and says “she needs to cry it out”. Has anyone’s partner done the same ?

Am i in the wrong here

So my baby daddy is upset with me because he is supposed to watch the kids on Saturdays and they come back to me on Saturday nights after I’m done with work and he is upset with me because he wants to go back home for the Fourth of July I offered to switch my shift and work the Friday before the fourth so then he could leave after I was done at three and he’s mad at me because he doesn’t want to leave at three on Friday and then have to be back on Monday by 6 AM. Our daughters breast-fed and he’s trying to claim that he will take them with him for the full weekend and just feed my daughter formula because I don’t have enough for him to take them for the full weekend. He also has not established paternity for our daughter, but he has for our son so as far as I’m aware he wouldn’t be able to even take them in the first place there’s no custody order in place at the moment. He also parents by just screaming from across the room, yelling and swearing at our 18 month old instead of explaining to him why things are not Okay to do. So I barely even feel comfortable with him having them alone in general, but am I in the wrong here I’m telling him that he can’t take the kids and that he’ll just have to figure out what to do during his time that he’s supposed to have them cause he’s acting like I’m trying to keep them from his family, which I’m not I would honestly rather him go there so my kids can have a happy holiday because last time when he left on Easter while I was on maternity leave, the kids were never happier. I had no issues the whole time no acting out or anything. Our son is a very good listener and very smart. He understands emotions and everything like that so upsets me a lot when baby daddy yells at him instead of talking to him.

Would you yell at your toddlers for playing in the toilet/litter box?

I'm really, really trying to change my reactions to my kids. I read on a gentle parenting group that yelling is okay when someone is in danger but does that include germ danger and things like that? I also know that having a big reaction can cause them to want to do it again... How would you handle these situations if you wouldn't yell? I'm a newly single mom and just doing my best after just moving and trying to figure this out, please don't judge me harshly. I want to be a safe person for my kids more than anything in the world but the parenting that was modeled to me was absolutely not okay. I want to do something different so I need examples of what to shift to

HELP

Moms with 3 or more children I'm losing it. I have 4 kids ages 1,5,8,9. It's only me. My husband is over the road driving trucks. My 8 year old has autism and ADHD. My 9 year old is going through her taking back to me phase my 5 year old is learning how to process her emotions my 1 year old soon to be two is going through is terrible twos. Nothing satisfies him. I just don't have it together right now. I'm in my room on my chair with my door locked avoiding them as much as possible they haven't been listening to anything I been telling them. Go sit down go read your book go watch tv. I normally do one on ones with them after school but I don't have the mental space to do that my head hurts I'm going through family problems with my mom and sisters I'm losing it. My husband finally comes back home tonight but they will be sleep. My 8 and 9 year old are giving me the hardest time right now. They constantly fight and tell on each other. My 5 yr old is listening watching TV my 1 yr old is in his pack and play playing with toys yet my 8 and 9 year old are causing stress. I tried separating them but they keep sneaking in each other's personal space I'm just over it. Now they are screaming I gotta go

Nannies/babysitters

I was wondering if you guys have either a nanny or babysitter. I’m trying to save my job and I’m very worried about having a stranger watch my baby. My family and her dad’s family are busy with their lives and just wanted to know what yall recommend for a babysitter or nanny.

Hey ladies I have a few questions , please understand that this is my 1st child and im learning as I go with little help from family and friends

So here's alittle info on my little boy , his 19 months old and is super shy and gentle with everything inless its with a fork he took from me then hell hit me with it harder then he realizes , i am teaching him not to hit but he curls up and pouts with a whining sound every no so its progress from crying .

So how do I know his ready for potty training to kinda start getting him use to be around a little potty / toilet ?

How much food for each meal is a good amout ? Im asking this one cuz he ate half my bowl of rice and chicken on top of a can of vienna sausages and 4 squeezy pouches with some water and I feel like thats way to much food at once but it was over an hour maybe 1hr 30mins for all that

How often should he get to play in the bath and just play in it not like when his just done taking a bath , cuz he loves climbing in to the bath when its empty and when im trying to fill it up for bath time and I feel like he wants to play in the water with some random bath safe toys more then his 2 baths a week( he stays oddly clean for a baby doesnt really like getting icky / dirty)

And last one is
What should I know and expect for when he turns 2

If you guys have any tips on what I can do for anything feel free to comment that also if ive tryed it ill let you know , same with if I havent thought of it
Please and thank you