Am i in the wrong here

So my baby daddy is upset with me because he is supposed to watch the kids on Saturdays and they come back to me on Saturday nights after I’m done with work and he is upset with me because he wants to go back home for the Fourth of July I offered to switch my shift and work the Friday before the fourth so then he could leave after I was done at three and he’s mad at me because he doesn’t want to leave at three on Friday and then have to be back on Monday by 6 AM. Our daughters breast-fed and he’s trying to claim that he will take them with him for the full weekend and just feed my daughter formula because I don’t have enough for him to take them for the full weekend. He also has not established paternity for our daughter, but he has for our son so as far as I’m aware he wouldn’t be able to even take them in the first place there’s no custody order in place at the moment. He also parents by just screaming from across the room, yelling and swearing at our 18 month old instead of explaining to him why things are not Okay to do. So I barely even feel comfortable with him having them alone in general, but am I in the wrong here I’m telling him that he can’t take the kids and that he’ll just have to figure out what to do during his time that he’s supposed to have them cause he’s acting like I’m trying to keep them from his family, which I’m not I would honestly rather him go there so my kids can have a happy holiday because last time when he left on Easter while I was on maternity leave, the kids were never happier. I had no issues the whole time no acting out or anything. Our son is a very good listener and very smart. He understands emotions and everything like that so upsets me a lot when baby daddy yells at him instead of talking to him.

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