Am I the a**hole?

So our baby is 8 months old, not a great sleeper but I'm not used to waking up every hour/2 hours ever night 😭😂
Basically partner works Monday -Friday 9-3:30 which I understand is still draining, my partner doesn't have to wake up for anything at night as I breastfeed so it's just me that baby will settle for at the moment (I sleep in the same room as baby )
As I don't get much time to myself day or night as baby goes to bed around 6:30pm and I stay with her for the night, sometimes on the weekend I just want an hour or 2 just to relax but my partner says "well I haven't had any time to myself"
But they have from 6:30 until they go to sleep every night plus uninterrupted sleep?!
Am I the a hole for wanting a little time to myself?

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Not really! You deserve some you time to be a better person, you're more than just a Mom and you need to reconnect with yourself to be an even better parent. I bet that your partner doesn't need to worry about how long he spends in the bathroom... Your defo not the a..hole here

This is heartbreaking, tell him you will now split all time 50/50 that he's not at work and he will see just how little time he will have

Are you cosleeping so that's why you need to stay in the room? Are you sleeping in separate rooms? What is your partner doing from 3.30 onwards? It's only a 6 hour work day which I'm sure can still be taxing depending on the role but it's not exactly 100 hours a week is it?

You're not an a hole for wanting some time. I'd go as far as to say that you NEED some time and your partner is absolutely being the a hole for acting like there's anything wrong with that. Time for them to grow up and start making some sacrifices because I'm currently not seeing any being made....

Girl, my partner since the beginning takes little one in the mornings on the weekend so I can catch up on sleep... You need recharge time 100%. And he needs quality time with his child too! Maybe send them to a playground or something 👍

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