Should dads be allowed to stay on the maternity unit overnights?

When I was in having my last baby, the written rules were dads had to leave by say 10pm and could come back in the following morning. It wasn’t until hours after I said goodbye to my husband I realised that the 3 other women in the room had been allowed to have their partners stay. One was snoring loudly, one was constantly walking and hovering about and also using the in room toilet which stated patient only. The gaps in the curtains made me feel extremely uncomfortable with boobs out,bleeding and vulnerable as you expect after a birth. I also was aware they could hear every personal question the midwife would ask me. This is making me anxious for my delivery this time around :-(

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I didn’t know that some NHS trusts allow the dad overnight. I personally find that so strange. Being in the bay was the most vulnerable I have ever been in my life and I really didn’t even like the visitors. One woman had her husband and her 5 children there from 10-7 every day until she left. I found it so intrusive. I would’ve lost my mind if there were dads over night using the facilities.

What’s the policy at the hospital you’re registered at?

Dad’s were allowed for me too . It was 3 of us in a room after all 3 having c sections plans back to back . Two of us ( including me ) decided to send dad home as they are very snoring mens.. for the sack of the other mums and babies i decided it was for the best and so the other lady … the 3rd lady needed her husband as she losted nearly 2 liter of blood and her own life . Even tho they were very loud i didnt mind as my baby was grunting all night.. and i felt bad for it . I also struggled to stand up in the morning and the dad heard me and asked me nicely if i needed help and i said yes without him i would have probably wet the bed .. soo sometime having strangers around aint to bad lol . X

When I gave birth to our son. We had our own room. He was allowed to stay I wouldn’t want it no other way but I could see how that could be uncomfortable if you don’t have your own room and you share a room.

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