Overwhelmed

I have two lovely girls oldest is 3 years 5 months and the youngest is 1 year 9 months … turns out, what an age combination 🙃 I have them a lot of the week on my own and although 90% of the time I can handle whatever tantrums come my way my second child is … intense (they do warn you eh). She can be intensely loving but on her moody days oh sweet lord. I find it really limiting thinking of things we can all do together because of her tantrums and general unpredictability, and it’s wearing me thin. Her sleep recently has not been great as she has developed some separation anxiety at night and I have to go in and reassure her a lot, so I’m also tired. I work three days which is basically me trying to cram it all in and not get fired, and pray neither child is off sick. Then there’s house work in the evening and no time for much else feels weirdly lonely sometimes? Not really a question just wondering if anyone feels the same x ps. I have a great partner he just works a lot too and pays all our bills!

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Hi. I have a 3yo and a 1yo, while being a SAHM, so I can only imagine how overwhelmed you must feel since you're working as well, on top of it all!
I've also noticed an element of loveliness in my moods, and I think that's because, because we are this busy, we almost go into autopilot sorting out everything that needs doing, which doesn't leave a lot of room nor time for much else.

No, you're definitely not alone in this xx

Hey I have girls pretty much the same age and I am the primary care giver. I knew they were tough together (especially because the 15m old is unpredictable and lashes out sometimes) but didn’t realise how tough they were until recently. Went to my mums with the girls and after about an hour she said she doesn’t think she’d be able to watch the girls on her own whilst they are at this stage. Apparently they are a lot harder than me and my siblings were which I struggle to believe. It’s overwhelming and a lot but it’s only temporary and things will get better 🩷

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What to do 😩

My daughter is a side sleeper. I put her down on her back every single time and she rolls onto her side and will fall asleep. She's never rolled over onto her tummy yet but I'm paranoid waiting for the day she can and I won't sleep again until she can fully hold her head up 😩😩😭😭 she's 2 weeks and 5 days old.

I've tried constantly moving her back onto her back, every single time she moves onto her side or fusses until I let her. Once she's on her side she'll drift off into a peaceful sleep. I'm forever constantly checking her to see if she'a breathing or rolled onto her tummy and gotten stuck.

The picture is of the position she will get herself into every time. With her hand under her head. I'm lost for ideas please help 😭😩

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