I have an 8 week old baby and a 3 year old.
I'm awake all night every night, until at least 2am but usually up until 3 or 4am.
I just can't sleep until my body is physically exhausted to the point of passing out.
So usually I end up falling asleep after my baby's second feed.
But then she wakes up anywhere from 1-2.5 hours later, unsettled and just won't go back to sleep in her bed.
And on top of that some night my 3yo will wake up upset, wanting me or his dad to lay with him, which is fine except he's still in a cot bed so we need to lay on the floor next to him which is so uncomfortable. Usually we will sit and wait for him to fall back asleep and come back to our bed but it's hard.
Most of the time my husband does it, but then if I've managed to fall asleep by some miracle, I'll wake up when he comes back into bed.
I feel like every night I am fighting to get 2 or maybe 3 hours of broken sleep. It's driving me mad. I have headaches, my body feels sore and overworked, I'm so short-fused. I just don't know if I can do this anymore.
It's 4:05am right now and I haven't slept yet. My baby is currently sleeping upright on me as she's just had a feed and I need to wait at least 20 minutes before I put her down or she'll throw up. My 3yos bedroom camera has just lit up and I look over to see he's started tossing and turning so will likely be up soon if he can't settle and I'm just at the absolute end of my rope.
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I’m sorry you are going through this, it doesn’t last long though. Is your husband able to help with night feeds so you can get some sleep?

I remember these days. Coming out of the clear now. My daughter is 3 and my son is 9 months now. I’m not sure how I survived. The toddler waking up was largely due to the big change (new sibling and we moved). Do what you can for yourself right now. Give your self grace and compassion. You are running on very little. If you can get a nap on the weekend when your husband is off. Take the opportunity. Go to bed earlier if possible, have a shower. Do anything for yourself to make you feel human. You need to .

Maybe you can get a bigger bed for your 3yo so your little can rely on your husband to get him back to sleep. I have a transitional crib you can have but idk if youre anywhere close to me.