Those whose partner travel for work, dose it get any easier?

We’ve been together for 8 years and i genuinely thought it would get easier but gosh it doesn’t feel like it is. I was perfectly fine yesterday helping him get ready to go away and today after he left I’m a complete emotional wreck. My 3 year old knows daddy is away for a few days and has come up to me saying she misses daddy already. I let her call daddy to let him know she misses him and of course the second I heard his voice I was in tears so I had to leave the room so she didn’t see crying. It feels like it doesn’t get any easier and on top of that I’m pregnant so that probably plays into the emotional part!

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I have 3 - 13, 10 and 3. With my first it was me that used to travel a lot - I was a fashion buyer so was away every 6 weeks or so for fairly long trips - that was hard! I kept that up until we had our second son then gave up work as I couldn’t do it anymore. Then as my husbands career has progressed it was him that is travelling lots - up to 3 weeks at a time. To be honest we’re in a routine now and I’m fine when he’s away. It’s bloody hard work but manageable - I find it physically draining more than emotionally if that makes any sense? The older two are generally pretty easy - the 3 year old is obviously a bit more needy. We’ve lived with no family support now for 13 years as we live 3 hours away from family so we’ve built up a support network of friends and that’s been key. I help my friends when they need me and vice versa. It also takes away the emotional burden as I don’t get lonely.

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