Husband left 8mo. unattended in high chair at hotel breakfast
Husband went to hotel breakfast buffet with our 8 month old a few minutes to get set up. When I walked in I saw my husband on his own getting some fruit.
Our baby was strapped in the high chair about 10m across the room from him. When my husband walked over I said “caught you, you left our baby unattended in the high chair”.
My husband then immediately got quiet, claimed he wasn’t hungry anymore and was generally in a bad mood. I said “why aren’t you hungry anymore? Is it because I called you out on leaving our baby alone?”
He then stormed off and said “good luck with breakfast”, before sending a flurry of angry texts saying he did nothing wrong, he’s a great dad, and I treat him like a fucking child, telling him off like I’m his mum. He said “our baby has never even looked close to falling out”, to which I responded “it only takes two seconds”.
Husband now not talking to me and our last day on holiday is ruined.
Context: the high chair is an ikea one with only a 3 point harness.
My husband says I’m toxic
He told me I’m toxic and I’m poisoning our relationship because I only want to have sex when he screams at me about how I never give it to him. I told him that coercion, and maybe if he didn’t get so angry every time I said no, I’d want to more often. I told him this makes him the toxic one. He says with everything he does for me and the family, the least I can do is lay on my back without complaining. I told him it needs to be something we both want, and he said we only do it when I want… I said no, because he also wants it when I do, and there have been times I’ve initiated and he said no and I respected that. I said if anything, we do it more when he wants because he’s not wrong about me giving in when he yells at me. He says he shouldn’t have to yell at me to get taken care of properly, and that I’m failing him as a wife. I told him he sounds ridiculous and he’s the one being toxic, to which he flipped out with “I’m always the problem” and I told him yeah, he is always the problem. I’m not perfect, but I spend a lot of time fixing what he breaks. He ended up telling me if we didn’t have sex last night then he was divorcing me. I told him I wasn’t doing it, and that I agreed maybe a divorce is best if sex is really the only things he sees me for. He left before I woke up this morning. I haven’t even tried to contact him. I’m still just so… dumbfounded?? Like the actual fuck?
WWYD. Would this bother you?
I have a friend who is always checking out what we do, what we buy, how we do this or that, etc... When she comes to our home she mentions how nice this, how nice that, asks where we buy stuff, mentions how we “don't settle for regular things”. Every single time.
Comments about our shelves, towels, napkins, tablecloth, chairs, clothes, toys, plants, bag, mats, water bottles, Keychain, anything...
At the beginning I didn't think anything about it, I thought it was her way of giving a compliment. But after making the same comments every time we meet, it is a bit much and it feels like I am being scrutinized.
After we visit my family she asks my toddler - not me- how big is my parents house, how many rooms... I thought that was so weird and inappropriate. I am starting to feel she is getting kind of privy to our life and a bit obsessed.
Later I started noticing she would try to copy the same things. Again, at the beginning it didn't bother me, but after a while I found it weird she would want to buy the same things and I feel it is not normal.
I know it is not the end of the world but it has made me want to avoid her.
