Such a bad sleeper! I Can’t take it anymore
My daughter has never been a great sleeper, but recently it feels especially unpredictable and exhausting. For example, yesterday she woke up at 5:30am but only had a 30minute nap at 10am and then stayed awake until 7:45pm.
I tried offering another chance for a short nap later in the day, but she wasn’t interested. We had a busy family day and she was really happy, so I expected her to be exhausted by bedtime and have a good nights sleep. However she was still up multiple times and was very difficult to settle and took over an hour to go back to sleep. This morning she woke at 4:45am, clearly still tired and irritable, but unable to go back to sleep.
It feels like no matter how active or calm her day is, or how tired she appears, her sleep doesn’t follow a consistent pattern. On the other hand, there are days when she has a two-hour lunchtime nap and a very relaxed schedule, but the outcome is the same. She still wakes multiple times overnight and often takes a long time to resettle.
I’ve tried tracking her sleep to identify patterns, but nothing seems to make sense. I’ve also tried a more flexible “go with the flow” approach, letting her sleep whenever and wherever she needs it, but that hasn’t helped either.
My husband is keen to try for another baby, but I’m hesitant because I can’t imagine managing pregnancy alongside such broken sleep. We do support each other through the nights and take turns where we can, but it still feels very draining.
He’ll things feel worse more than ever
Should I be getting up more when baby wriggles and fusses?
Baby and I are co-sleeping, and he has a lot of wind at the minute. So throughout the second half of the night he’s always wriggling, grunting and fussing a lot.
I wake up when he does this and it’s often hard to tell if he’s asleep or not. Last night one time I turned the light on, clocked his eyes were still closed so turned it back off. What I tend to do is just put a hand on his chest. Sometimes he calms back to stillness, sometimes he carries on wriggling but still seems to be asleep.
Last night this was happening for about 3 hours straight and I’m wondering if I should have woken him up, winded him and cuddled him. Was he unhappy for all that time? I think he was asleep for most of it. But I just feel like I was neglecting him with my approach.