Why does my toddler hate me?

My 19 month old has started being aggressive mainly towards me (and our cats) I think he second set of wisdom teeth are coming through so his sleep and stomach are all struggling right now but this constant aggression just feels so unmanageable, I try to play with him or read him a book or literally anything and he throws it at me and starts hitting me and yanking my hair out. I am so upset and honestly scared of him any advice would be appreciated

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I know it doesn't feel like it but he doesn't hate you. He feels safe with you so pushes boundaries more than he does with anyone else.

Try to react as calmly as possible when he hits/pulls hair. Big reactions will make him more likely to repeat it.

Hold hands and say simple phrases like "gentle hands" And model them by using his hands to stroke your face or similar.

If you are feeling anxious/scared he'll feel the same.

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