Question to everyone but specifically for people with darker skin tones. How would you like parents to talk to their kids if the child mentioned your skin color?

Not in any sort of bad way. But like I have two toddlers the younger one is learning colors. We had a pest control guy come and he had a black truck he is also a black guy so my daughter recognized it but that’s it. I’d like to know how you guys would appreciate me talk to her about it or acknowledging that yes he is a different color but to one day not be rude about it. Something like that. Please let me know if this doesn’t make sense. It wasn’t the first time she’s seen a person of color but because she was talking about the truck that’s why it was brought up. So now do I just go yeah he is black isn’t that cool? Or what do you think?

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I explain to my daughter everyone is different, as we see a few people in wheelchairs etc. We are unique in our own way and it would be boring it we were the same.

So... my kids are 1/2 white and 1/2 Asian. My oldest is 5 and goes to school with a plethora of kids with different skin tones. His best friend for the past 3 years is black and Alex says he's brown, alex and his daddy are peach, and Henry (his brother) and mommy are "lighter". . . Lol dont know if that "explains" anything, but it's what we do... he knows people are different shades

Our guy is still little (3) but generally I try to stick with a neutral tone. I think saying a skin color is "nice", "good" ect. Implies there are also ones that are bad or not so nice. When referring to anything physical I usually just say something like "yup, people come in all kinds of shapes, sizes and colors"

I haven’t had this with my daughter yet but in nursery when a child mentions it we say something like “yes well done and what skin colour are you? And what skin colour is…? We’re all different skin colours!”
Open ended questions to encourage their learning in an appropriate way x

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Question to everyone but specifically for people with darker skin tones. How would you like parents to talk to their kids if the child mentioned your skin color?

Not in any sort of bad way. But like I have two toddlers the younger one is learning colors. We had a pest control guy come and he had a black truck he is also a black guy so my daughter recognized it but that’s it. I’d like to know how you guys would appreciate me talk to her about it or acknowledging that yes he is a different color but to one day not be rude about it. Something like that. Please let me know if this doesn’t make sense. It wasn’t the first time she’s seen a person of color but because she was talking about the truck that’s why it was brought up. So now do I just go yeah he is black isn’t that cool? Or what do you think?

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Right… I’m so confused. My period is due today, and for the past week I had a slight feeling that I might be pregnant. Terrified as we have a one year old - we weren’t trying. Anyway, most of my symptoms were indicating pregnancy, so I took test on Saturday ( can see faint line - shocked as this is what I had with my first daughter), Sunday different test showing negative, Monday - test showed a faint line within the time frame then it disappeared, took another test this morning and is negative. I’m slightly relieved, but confused and also a bit sad after yesterday’s test. What the hell was that?

I wanted to post more photos. The one I’m attaching is the first test.

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I have a little girl already and I did the same crazy behaviour of testing way too early and then getting upset. I need to stop this crazy behaviour. I forgot how hard the TWW is.

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