Does anyone still grieve their pregnancy?

I have an 18 month old girl who I absolutely adore the bones of but I still get upset when I think about my pregnancy. I deeply miss that chapter of my life. The scans, the planning and just the magical feeling of carrying her and feeling her kicking. I waited so long to experience it and feel like it was all over in the blink of an eye. I find it very difficult to look at my pregnancy pictures and the newborn photos as it physically hurts my heart and I just sob 😞

I am on 20mg Citalopram have been for 8 months now but I’m starting to wonder if I need to speak to the doctor again or are these feelings normal? Also struggling to accept I won’t be having anymore because my partner isn’t on board. X

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All the time… even with 2 little ones I still feel sad I won’t go through the process again. Felt so exciting to find out I was pregnant, go to the scans, find out the sex, plan the birth etc etc then finally meet them. My youngest just turned one and I try to focus on the things we will be able to do in the future that will bring the same feeling of joy - seeing them grow, travelling, starting school, shared experiences etc … I was also on Citalopram and it did help a little with the sadness but took some time to accept that I won’t be pregnant again. Hang in there, your feelings are valid xx

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